1. Love

2. Love in Modern Society An Impersonal Society exaggerates the rational and economic aspects of human and tends to ignore peoples need for affection and human conduct (p. 102). Placing a greater value on achievement and consumerism than on attitudes and behaviors necessary to maintain long-term loving relationships The Paradox

3. 4 Things Love Isnt Martyring: Manipulating: Limerence: Romanticizing:

4. Love: A deep and vital emotion that satisfies important and significant human needs, coupled with caring for and acceptance of the beloved, resulting in an intimate relationship

5. Need Satisfaction (Crosby) Legitimate Needs: Illegitimate:

6. Intimacy: The capacity to share ones inner self and to commit to that person even if it involves personal sacrifice Two Kinds

7. Triangular Theory (Sternberg) Three Components of Love

8. Love Types (Lee) 1. EROS 2. STORGE 3. LUDUS 4. AGAPE 5. PRAGMA 6. MANIA

9. Relationship Types (Crosby) A-Frame H-Frame M-Frame

10. Labeling Love (Schacter) Emotional experience consists of 2 parts

11. Love Stories (Stenberg)

12. 4 Stage Model of How Love Progresses (Goldstine & Weiner) 1. Falling in Love 2. Disappointment 3. Requests for Change 4. Acceptance/Resolution

13. Wheel of Love(Reiss) 1. Rapport 2. Self-Revelation 3. Mutual Dependence 4. Personality need Fulfillment

14. Wheel of Love(Reiss) Role Concept Sociocultural background

15. Love Vs. Friendship (Davis & Todd) Prototype of Friendship 1. Enjoyment 2. Acceptance 3. Trust 4. Respect 5. Mutual Acceptance 6. Confiding 7. Understanding 8. Spontaneity

16. Love Vs. Friendship (Davis & Todd) Involves all the Friendship characteristics as well as two broad clusters:

17. Self-Worth (i.e., self-esteem) and the ability to be loved Refers to ones self-concept: involving the feelings that people have about their own value (p. 110) The Six Pillars or practice of building self-worth (Branden) 1. Live consciously (default vs. knowledgably) 2. Self-acceptance 3. Self-responsibility 4. Self-assertiveness -- honoring our wants, needs, & values 5. Live purposefully -- set attainable goals & reach them 6. Personal integrity -- congruent behaviors

18. Misconceptions of Love 1. Love conquers all; if the relationship is tough, than you have the wrong partner 2. Love is static; once you fall in love, you get on a high and stay there 3. If it isnt perfect, it wasnt meant to be 4. You cant rekindle passion; once love dies, you cant get it back 5. Theres one true soul mate; if you meet the right one, you will live happily ever after.