1. Relationship Series: Breaking Toxic Habits

2. We Value Relationships
We believe that people are made to be in righteous and loving relationships with other people.  This is why we forgive one another, encourage one another and show the love of God to one another.

3. Isaiah 55:8
8 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts,     neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord.

4. Communicating Inadequacy
Toxic to Relationships

5. Communicating Inadequacy
Relationship is dependent upon performance
Need to measure up – Drives perfectionism
Worth/value/love is conferred conditionally

6. Ephesians 5:25
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…

7. I Kings 3:23-25
23 The king said, “This one says, ‘My son is alive and your son is dead,’ while that one says, ‘No! Your son is dead and mine is alive.’”
24 Then the king said, “Bring me a sword.” So they brought a sword for the king. 25 He then gave an order: “Cut the living child in two and give half to one and half to the other.”

8. I Kings 3:26
26 The woman whose son was alive was deeply moved out of love for her son and said to the king, “Please, my lord, give her the living baby! Don’t kill him!”

9. Matthew 3:16-17
16 As soon as Jesus was baptized, he went up out of the water. At that moment heaven was opened, and he saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and alighting on him. 17 And a voice from heaven said, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.”

10. John 15:12-13
12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.

11. Romans 13:8
8 Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law.

12. Romans 8:14-16
14 For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God.15 The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” 16 The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children. 

13. Romans 3:22-24
22 This righteousness is given through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference between Jew and Gentile, 23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.

14. Ephesians 2:8-9
8 For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— 9 not by works, so that no one can boast. 

15. New Habit: Communicating Love
Relationship is NOT dependent upon performance
There is no need to measure up.
Worth/value/love is conferred automatically

16. 2019 Relationship Series: Breaking Toxic Habits
Toxin #2: Laying a Guilt Trip
Toxin #3: Shaming
Toxin #4: Shunning
Continuing Next Sunday!

18. Prayer Available
If you need prayer, the elders are available to pray for you after the service.