1. Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. www.bullyfree.com abeane@bullyfree.com

2. Help Your School Be Bully Freeby
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3. To talk with you about a serious problem! Your school cares about you.
Why Am I Here?
To talk with you about a serious problem!
Your school cares about you.
Your school needs your help.
You hear it and see it when the adults don’t – it’s done in secret.
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4. What is the problem? Students Mistreating Students Peer Victimization
Peer Abuse
Bullying
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5. Your school hates bullying. I hate bullying.
I believe you hate bullying.
You have good hearts.
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6. “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”
I believe in the Golden Rule!
What is the Golden Rule?
“Treat others the way you
want to be treated.”
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7. Why Dr. Beane developed the Bully Free Program
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11. Forrest Gump Movie www.bullyfree.com
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12. Forrest Gump (Paramount Pictures, 1994)
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13. Forrest Gump Memories Mistreatment is remembered! Apple lesson
Styrofoam plate and skewer lesson
Paper lesson
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14. Kindness is remembered!
Jenny obeyed the Golden Rule!
Voice of kindness
Voice of acceptance
Voice of courage
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15. What kind of memories are you creating?
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16. No one deserves to be mistreated!
Why was Forrest mistreated?
Important Truth!
No one deserves to be mistreated!
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17. Definition of Bullying
Bullying is intentional aggressive behavior that hurts a person’s body, feelings or things and/or is threatening. The mistreatment is persistent (repeated) and there is an imbalance of strength (power).
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18. What does bullying look like? www.bullyfree.com
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19. Hitting, slapping, elbowing, and shouldering (slamming)
Pushing and shoving
Kicking
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20. Cramming someone into his or her locker
Pinching
Cramming someone into his or her locker
Sexual harassment
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21. Stealing or damaging property or belongings
Restraining
Name-calling
Insulting remarks and put-downs
Repeated teasing
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22. Threats and intimidation
Racist remarks
Threats and intimidation
Whispering about someone behind
their back
Turning someone’s best friend against them
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23. Embarrassment and humiliation - making someone look foolish
Destroying reputations (gossiping and spreading mean and hurtful rumors and lies about someone)
Embarrassment and humiliation - making someone look foolish
Negative body language (mean and rejecting facial expressions, turning your back to someone)
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24. Excluding someone from a group (social rejection and isolation)
Hurtful graffiti
Excluding someone from a group (social rejection and isolation)
Mean and hurtful notes passed around or sent to someone
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25. Hate petitions (promising to hate someone)
Cyber bullying
Hurtful and/or threatening:
Text messages
Internet (MySpace, Facebook and other social networks)
Etc.
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26. Shut your eyes!
If you know someone who is mistreated every day at school, raise your hand.
If you feel like you are mistreated almost every day at school, raise your hand.
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27. Why must bullying stop? Causes health problems and can’t sleep well
Depression, anxiety, eating disorders, posttraumatic stress, school phobia, etc.
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28. Bullying Weakens the mind Weakens the heart Weakens the body
Weakens the spirit
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29. Mistreated students sometimes harm themselves and even commit suicide
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30. Remembering 33 Young People Who Killed Themselves Because of Bullying
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32. Mistreated students sometimes harm others
Revenge
School Shootings
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34. Michael Carneal – Heath High School
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35. The Testimony of Missy Jenkins-Smith
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36. The movie Mask! www.bullyfree.com
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37. Mask (Universal City Studios, Inc. 1985)
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38. Did the student in this movie obey the Golden Rule when he said,
“Hey kid, why don’t you take your mask off?”
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39. Guard Your Tongue! www.bullyfree.com
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40. Lessons about the Tongue
Toothpaste lesson
Banana lesson
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41. But you can: You can’t take back what you said or did.
Say, “I was wrong.”
Say, “I am sorry.”
Say, “Please forgive me.”
Be kind to the person.
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42. Did the students who laughed at what was said to Rocky obey the
Golden Rule?
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43. Guard Your Heart! www.bullyfree.com
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44. Guard Your Heart Lessons
Bottle of water lesson
Coke can lesson
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45. Bystanders are Powerful!
Don’t laugh or join in when someone is mistreated.
Don’t ignore it when someone is mistreated.
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46. Report it! www.bullyfree.com Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D.
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47. PSA Develop By Murray High Students
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48. Snowflakes are powerful when they stick together.
They can stop a big truck!
They can shut down an airport!
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49. The Good News is. . . IF YOU ARE BEING BULLIED:
We know how to help you and we can teach you to help yourself!
IF YOU ARE A BULLY:
We know how to help you stop mistreating others!
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50. IF YOU ARE BYSTANDER (WITNESS TO BULLYING):
You are powerful.
You don’t have to laugh.
You don’t have to ignore it. You can REPORT IT!
You and your friends can take a stand against bullying.
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51. I challenge you!! I dare you!! www.bullyfree.com
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