1. Recap of Core Motives & Natural Talents
Red
Blue
White
Yellow
Core
Motive
Power
Intimacy
Peace
Fun
Natural
Talents
Leadership
Vision
Quality
Service
Clarity
Tolerance
Enthusiasm
Optimism

2. What is Emotional Intelligence?

3. Core Motives Interactions

4. Red-Red Relationships
Fireworks
Strengths
Knows how to get things done
Willing to take risks
Not tied down by regrets
Limitations
Often highly critical of each other
Lack of compassion
Carry no emotional baggage

5. Red-Blue Relationships
Blood, Sweat and Tears
Strengths
Very loyal combination
Reds provide vision, Blues quality
Dependable and responsible
Limitations
Both seek to control each other
Don’t easily understand each other
Red thinks with head/Blue thinks with heart

6. Red-White Relationships
Fire and Ice
Strengths
Both are logical, easing understanding
Reds are delegators, Whites doers
Whites are calming, Reds motivating
Limitations
Whites dislike demands, Reds are demanding
Whites like kindness, Reds can be unkind
Both are too independent

7. Red-Yellow Relationships
Fire and Ice
Strengths
Both are great communicators
Both are willing to take risks
Yellow’s fun can balance Red’s intensity
Limitations
Both colors can be insensitive
Yellow are emotional, Reds logical
Yellow’s irresponsibility annoys Reds
Reds intense focus can frustrate Yellows

8. Blue-Blue Relationships
Close and Comfortable
Strengths
Both share intense focus on quality and detail
Both are reliable and dependable
Both are considerate of the other
Limitations
Both can be overly serious and self-critical
Could get too focused on on details
May be overly critical of each other

9. Blue-White Relationships
Gentle Persuasion
Strengths
Both are good at working independently
Mutual strengths in service and compassion
They don’t get in each other’s way
Limitations
Whites don’t like control, Blues like to control
Neither color appreciates change
Blues over communicate, Whites undercommunicate

10. Blue-Yellow Relationships
Hand in Glove
Strengths
Share a natural emotion connection
Both are creative and good problem solvers
They don’t get in each other’s way
Limitations
They can get hung up on emotions
Yellows think Blues are too serious,
Blues can be offended by Yellow’s sarcasm

11. White-White Relationships
Peace and Tolerance
Strengths
Lack of conflict because both are accepting
Logical problem solving
Egoless relationship
Limitations
Relationship lacks leadership
Both can feel overwhelmed by challenges
Relationship may lack passion or energy

12. White-Yellow Relationships
Gentle Fun
Strengths
Respects each other’s individuality
Yellows like to talk; Whites like to listen
Neither likes conflict
Limitations
Neither is a natural leader
Neither is goal oriented
Yellows are very social, Whites enjoy privacy

13. Yellow-Yellow Relationships
Sparkle and Shine
Strengths
Both are creative, optimistic, and enthusiastic
Both are great communicators
They seek fun, excitement, and risk
Limitations
Neither one will naturally think of the other
Both are easy on themselves and each other
They lack discipline or logical focus

14. Interacting with Reds When interacting with Reds, you SHOULD:
Present issues logically, while being direct, brief and specific.
Demand attention and respect.
Let them lead the way, then be supportive of their leadership.

15. Interacting with Reds When interacting with Reds, you SHOULD NOT:
Embarrass them in front of others
Talk too much about your feeling or make emotional arguments.
Take forever to make a decision--Reds are not patient!

16. Interacting with Blues
When interacting with Blues, you SHOULD:
Give them time to collect their thoughts.
Be sensitive and sincere. Show your appreciation for them, mind your manners, and behave appropriately.
Be loyal and help them feel secure in your relationship.

17. Interacting with Blues
When interacting with Blues, you SHOULD NOT:
Make them feel guilty or be rude.
Expect them to forgive quickly or act spontaneously.
Make big, unexpected changes. Blues need time to adjust.

18. Interacting with Whites
When interacting with Whites, you SHOULD:
Create a relaxed, non-threatening atmosphere.
Be gentle and patient; try not to rush them.
Look for clues into their feelings that they’re showing but not saying.

19. Interacting with Whites
When interacting with Whites, you SHOULD NOT:
Be cruel or insensitive.
Overwhelm them with too much information or change at once.
Expect them to talk very much or very quickly.

20. Interacting with Yellows
When interacting with Yellows, you SHOULD:
Be positive and upbeat--remember that Yellows are more sensitive than they appear.
Recognize their contributions and praise them for what they’ve done well.
Offer them opportunities for fun and let them be creative.

21. Interacting with Yellows
When interacting with Yellows, you SHOULD NOT:
Be too serious or critical.
Try to control their schedules or push them too hard.
Be offended when they playfully tease you or joke around.

22. Your Plan for Building Relationships Exercise