1. Parenting with 20/20 Vision
Presented by:
Dr. Julie Hayden, Psy.D.
Rhombus Trainings

2. Looking Back, What to do different
Parenting Style
Environmental
Emotional
Physical / Biological
Spiritual

3. Parenting Styles
Authoritarian
Passive
Neglectful
Authoritative

4. Environmental Meet needs appropriately and quickly
Build a culture of communication
Protect
Balance protection and independence

5. Trauma McCann and Pearlman define trauma as
1) an event that is sudden, unexpected, or non-normative
2) exceeds the individual’s perceived ability to meet its demands
3) disrupts the individual’s frame of reference and other central psychological needs and related schemas

6. Trauma
Trauma can be a life and death danger or a horrible physical/emotional injury or experience, assault, pain or illness
Trauma is a life altering violation, betrayal, abandonment
Trauma immobilizes/overwhelms normal coping

7. Types of Trauma Interpersonal Chronic & Complex Trauma Accidental
Direct/Indirect
Acute
Chronic & Complex Trauma
Political/Cultural/
System
Vicarious

8. Impact of Trauma Depression Aggression/rage Lack of trust
Difficulty in relationships
Hyper vigilance
Anxiety
Health problems
Fearfulness
Impulsive/risk taking
Hopelessness
Poor social skills

9. Impact of Trauma Flashbacks Risk taking & need for excitement
Poor memory
Promiscuity
Dissociation/numbing
Difficulty concentrating
Substance abuse/addictions
Anger
Poor problem solving skills

10. Impact of Trauma Defensiveness Poor eating habits Low self-esteem
Negative thoughts and feelings
Withdrawn/passive
Learning disabilities
Brain development
Neglecting self and putting others first

11. Adverse Childhood Experiences
Dr. Vincent Felitti of San Diego Kaiser Permanente and Dr. Robert Anda from Center for Disease Control
A study that looks at the effects of childhood trauma on a person’s health and well being.

12. ACE Study Looks at childhood traumas that might include:
Abuse: physical, emotional, sexual
Neglect
Dysfunction within the household:
witnessing DV
substance abuse within the home
mental illness/suicidal member
divorce
crime/prison by someone in the home

13. ACE Study
Ace score 0-10
As ACE scores go up so does the likelihood of the following:
Heart disease
Smoking
Suicide attempts
IV drug user
High blood pressure
Alcoholism
Diabetes
Addictions
Domestic Violence

14. Emotional Development
Avoid Shaming
Make deposits to their love bank
Find where they receive pride and accomplishment
Be consistent so they can be brave
Think about how your kids feel in your presence

15. Physical / Biological Development
Brain Development – Senses
Time, and Attention
Play
Scaffolding

16. Spiritual Development
Impose your Values
Model
Read Bible Stories
Talk out loud about your faith process

17. In Conclusion, the common preventable difficulties in childhood leading to adult problems…
Absent parents
Abusive parents
Controlling parents
Neglectful parents
Abuse or Trauma
No way to process difficult situations
Constant stress in the home