1. LEARNING ABOUT
L.I.F.E.
A family-based program on relationships and abuse prevention
By Sister Kieran Sawyer, SSND and Kathie Amidei
Copyright Proud to Protect, LLC

2. L I F E LOVE (family love, commitment) INFATUATION (falling-in-love)
FRIENDSHIP (peers) E
EXPLOITATION (using)

3. LIFE has taught me that …

4. Fran / Fred Ida / Ike (F = Friend)
A friend of the other gender who is NOT your boy-friend or girl-friend.
Ida / Ike
(I = Infatuation)
A person of the other gender who IS (or might be) your boy-friend or girl-friend.

5. Letters from teens

6. N T HH H+K PK ST SI Noticing Talking Holding Hands Hugging and Kissing
Passionate Kissing
Sexual Touch
Sexual Intercourse

7. HORMONES
testosterone
progesterone
estrogen
oxytocin (not oxycontin)

8. S A C F IF RL Stranger Acquaintance Classmate Friend Intimate Friend
Real Love

9. N T HH H+K PK ST SI
S A C F IF RL

10. N T HH H+K PK ST SI
S A C F IF RL
MARRIAGE

11. --for richer, for poorer --in sickness and in health
REAL LOVE
--for better, for worse
--for richer, for poorer
--in sickness and in health
--in good times and in bad
--in joy and in sorrow
till death do us part.

12. N T HH H+K PK ST SI
“Arousal is Spousal”

13. N > T > HH > H+K > PK > ST > SI
LUST OR
LOVE

14. LUST
Sex for ME
for Pleasure, Power, Passion
Sexual Exploitation

15. LOVE Sex as a sign of TOTAL COMMITMENT Sex as a SACRAMENT
Pope John Paul II Theology of the Body

16. SEXUAL ABUSE
OF TEENS
BY TEENS

17. Three categories of exploitation:

18. IF IT ISN’T
REAL LOVE…
DON’T

19. IF IT IS
REAL LOVE…
WAIT

20. Two conflicting messages: which one are you listening to?
Teen World Realities
Two conflicting messages:
which one are you listening to?

21. Parent-Teen Dialogue

22. L.I.F.E. Report Card
A = Almost always; Amazingly good progress B = Best effort; Better than before C = Could Care more D = Doesn’t really try F = Forgets Frequently

23. I Corinthians 13
Love is always patient and kind; Love is never jealous; Love is not boastful or conceited, Love is not rude, and never seeks its own advantage; Love does not take offense, or store up grievances. Love does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but finds its joy in truth.

24. Love is always ready to make allowances, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. As it is, these three will last: Faith, Hope, and Love, And the greatest of these is LOVE.