1. CVE 5074 – Leading Construction Operations Presented by: Hani Baatiyyah & Hamed Al Hinai

2. Outline Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others
Two Keys to Understand People
What’s Your Style?
Part 2 – Style Flex: A Key to Improved Relationships
The Style Flex Solution to People Differences
Four Steps to Better Relationships
Flexing in Special Situations
Part 3 – People’s Styles and Family Relationships
The Art of Loving Someone Very Different from Yourself
Style-Based Parenting

3. Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others
Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others Two Keys To Understand People
Assertiveness
is the degree to which people’s behavior is seen as forceful and self-confidence without being aggressive.
More Assertive People
Less Assertive People
Move more rapidly
Move more Slowly
Speak more rapidly and loudly
Speak less rapidly and softly
Decide more quickly and address problem more quickly
Take more time to arrive at decisions and slower to address problem
Demonstrate anger more quickly
Demonstrate anger less quickly
Have more intense eye contact and exude more energy
Have less intense eye contact and demonstrate less energy

4. Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others
Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others Two Keys To Understand People
Responsiveness
Is the degree to which people are seen as showing emotions and demonstrating awareness.
More Responsive People
Less Responsive People
Express Feeling more openly
Less disclosing of feeling
Appear more Friendly
Appear more reserved
More Comfortable with small talk
Less interested in small talk
Prefer Working with Other
More comfortable working alone
Dress More Casually
Dress more formally
Less structured in their use of time
More structured in their use of time

5. Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others What’s your Style?
Analytical
They rarely compliment others
They are organized systematic
They are slow decision makers.
Amiable
They are Friendly and generous
They are excellent team players
Quiet workers.

6. Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others What’s your Style?
Driver
They get right to the point
They are more task oriented
They are likely to change their minds
Expressive
They are impulsive
They are less attention to clock and calendar time
They are the most outgoing of the People Styles.

7. Part 2 – Style Flex : A Key to Improve Relationships The Style Flex Solution to People Differences
Basic Flex
A Flexible person treats the others the way everyone wants to be treated
Style flex
The temporary adjustment of your behavior to make interaction more comfortable for the other person.
Adjusting your behavior
A relationship would work better if some changes were made
Adjusting a few behaviors:
Adjust no more than two to three types of behavior
Flexing your style only at key times:
Only flex your style when it is appropriate.

8. Part 2 – Style Flex : A Key to Improve Relationships Four Steps to Better Relationships
Identify
The first step is to identify your style and the style of the other person.
Plan
Plan ahead
Selecting the specific types of behavior you will adapt and how you will adapt them.
Implement
Stick to the changes you plan and monitor the other person’s reaction.
Evaluate
Review the Process and draw lessons for future interactions.

9. Part 2 – Style Flex : A Key to Improve Relationships Flexing in Special Situations
Flexing to your Manager
Locate yourself and manager on a style map
Focus on Manager’s Strongest Preferences
Focus on “How would you like me to work with you?”

10. Part 2 – Style Flex : A Key to Improve Relationships Flexing in Special Situations
Flexing to the People you Manage
Give People the freedom to do things their way
Common way to change people’s fundamental way of doing things
Use Style Flex in team meetings

11. Part 2 – Style Flex : A Key to Improve Relationships Flexing in Special Situations
Flexing to a Group
Identify
Plan
Implement
Evaluate

12. Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships
The four phases of Intimate Relationship
Phase I : Attraction
Phase II : Frustration
Phase III : Adjustment
Phase IV : Devotion

13. Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships
Attraction
Different styles attract each other
Ranges From moderate to Intense
Moderate
“The time is right, and we should get married!”
Intense
Partners are “Swept off their feet”
“Crazy” about each other!
Feels like she/he cannot live without the other

14. Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships
Frustration
Each one tries to change the other’s
“bad” qualities (child-rearing, spending,..)
Each one resisting the change effort!
Phase II Frustration causes many to give up!
Most divorce occurs in the first two years of
marriage

15. Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships
Frustration
It can contribute significantly to the
development of genuine love.
If it happens before marriage, it helps you
make a better choice of who you will be
spending your life with.
It is important to be able to see your partner
as he/she actually is (strength and weaknesses)

16. Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships
Adjustment
Stress
Struggling with jobs
Children Responsibilities
Tips to deal with these challenges
Mindset of Acceptance instead of Judgement
Change yourself not your partner
Appreciate and celebrate your differences

17. Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships
Devotion
Realistic Confidence in the Relationship
They Enjoy a Rich Intimacy
They “Go with the Flow” of the Relationship

18. Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships
Style-Based Parenting
Accept that raising a kid is tough
Map your family
Introduce your child to the people’s style model
Accept your Child’s Style
Accept your parenting style

19. Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships
Accept that raising a kid is tough
Having Children helps a marriage?
Often arrives after the attraction phase
Needs much attention to the child than one another
Can’t go out as freely
Jalousie from the husband!

20. Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships
Map your Family

21. Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships
Introduce your Child to the people’s style
Help your child to understand themselves and others
Orient them to the basic model
Start from a young age, it’s easier
Give them positive feedback on what they like to do
Use the children’s vocabulary to expressing anything

22. Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships
Accept your child’s style
It is part of their genetic Makeup
It is an essential part of who she/he is

23. Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships
Accept your Parenting style
Mothers
Cultural Stereotype that mother should be affectionate and supportive
Amiable style
Studies shows Different
Many ways to be good Mother! Accept your parenting Style
Make the most strengths and keep your weaknesses away
Fathers
Expected to be Assertive head of household
Drivers Style