1. Parent Version STOP BULLYING NOW!
Scott Foli, Principal Lupin Hill Elementary School
The attached information was derived from the findings of Helen Phillips Anti-Bullying Team and materials from the STOP BULLYING NOW website.
Slides have been amended to meet the needs of Lupin Hill students.

2. STOP! BULLYING IS: Mean Acts That Happen: Several Times On Purpose
Bullying means that you have told that person to stop
Bullying means that there is not DIALOGUE

3. BULLYING VS. UGLY There’s a difference between a bully and
someone who says or does something
ugly.
BULLYING: Mean Acts That Happen: Several Times On Purpose: STOP!
UGLY: One Time-unkind words and/or actions
BOTH ARE NOT OK!
They are handled differently

4. STOP BULLYING NOW!
BE STRONG AND STICK TOGETHER!
Join the NO BULLYING CLUB!

5. BULLYING IS: Intentional: It’s on purpose, hurtful behavior. Repeated:
The behavior happens more than once.
Harmful:
It hurts your body and/or your feelings
It Happens: Several Times On Purpose- STOP!

6. Don’t let it happen to you! Don’t watch it happen to others!
BEAT BULLYING
Don’t let it happen to you!
Don’t watch it happen to others!
Speak up

7. IS THIS BULLYING?
Katie and Ellie are best friends. Ellie was absent from school for 3 days with a tummy ache. When she came back, Katie was playing with Lynn. Katie said she and Lynn are best friends now. Ellie’s feeling are hurt.
I see this on a daily basis, someone wants to play with someone else.

8. NO
We must be able to have many friends and play with other people when we want to
Because….

9. This was can be unkind sometimes but not bullying!
Katie and Lynn were not thinking about how Ellie feels.
Speak to counselor or teacher for help

10. IS IT BULLYING?
Adam brought a brand new ball to school. James kicked to score a goal and the ball went on the roof. Adam was very angry and said James could not play with him that day.

11. NO
Because….

12. If there is unkind actions on both sides
NOT BULLYING
It only happened once! OR
If there is unkind actions on both sides
*This was unkind but not bullying
If she excludes him from the game everyday, then it can. Tell someone….

13. IS IT BULLYING?
Mariah wears glasses. Some girls in her class call her “google eyes” and “gold-fish”. The girls run away from Mariah EVERYDAY at line up time. They laugh and call Mariah mean names. The other children are beginning to call her names too. Mariah doesn’t know what to do!

14. YES
Because

15. THIS IS BULLYING! It happened on purpose It happened EVERY DAY
Other children joined in
It hurt Mariah’s feelings
She needed help to stop it
This happened to Mariah…
SEVERAL TIMES ON PURPOSE –STOP!

16. How would you feel?
Laughing at someone, excluding them, starting rumors or saying mean things about someone or their family.. This Hurts!!

17. Who is involved in bullying?
Bully/Bullies
Victim/Victims
Bystander/Bystanders

18. The BYSTANDER
BYSTANDER- is a person who watches or knows about the bullying and doesn’t do anything to stop it!
DON’T BE A BYSTANDER!
STOP BULLYING NOW!!

19. WHO CAN STOP THIS BULLYING?
THE BYSTANDERS!

20. THE BULLY THE BULLY IS REALLY A COWARD!
THEY PICK ON PEOPLE THEY THINK THEY CAN HURT.
They are not happy with themselves
STICK TOGETHER!
DON’T LET THE BULLY WIN!
Bullying is a pattern of repeated intentionally cruel behavior in which a person or group with more power targets someone perceived to have less.

21. Can you recognize which role each person is playing in the bullying?
Who is being bullied?
Who is the bully?
Who is are the bystanders? How can we stop this?

22. WHY DO CHILDREN BECOME BYSTANDERS?
They are afraid to speak up
They think it will happen to them
They may think it’s just a bit of fun and it’s not serious
They think ignoring will make it stop
They sometimes think the victim deserves it

23. WHAT CAN YOU DO ABOUT IT? Tell an adult
Ask a friend to come with you to tell
Don’t show fear to the bully
Tell the bully to stop (only if it’s safe)
Don’t stay and fight. It’s ok to get away.
Make sure to tell your parents!

24. DON’T LET IT HAPPEN!
Doing nothing sends a message to the bully that what they are doing is OK.

25. NO BULLYING ALLOWED CONSEQUENCES:
The Bully will call their parents and tell them what he/she is doing.
The bully and his/her parents will meet with the principal and teacher
The bully will apologize to the victim
The bully will lose school privileges
The bully may be suspended or expelled from school
Dont let this happen to you…. Treat Others How You Want To Be Treated!!

26. WHAT IS BULLYING? Mean Acts That Happen: Several Times On Purpose
STOP!
To Recap!!!

27. Let’s STICK TOGETHER & TAKE A VOW TO JOIN THE…
STOP BULLYING NOW!
BE COOL ~ NOT CRUEL!
Let’s STICK TOGETHER & TAKE A VOW TO JOIN THE…
NO BULLYING CLUB!
“I will be a cool kid and not bully anyone. I will tell someone if I am being bullied. I will tell someone if I see someone being bullied.”
I know I’m a Lupin Hill Tiger because I’m Cool~Not Cruel!
We are all going to take the oath.

28. How do you Know? https://youtu.be/- kqUGRndcUU
Kids won't always speak up when they're being bullied at school, so parents need to look for warning signs. This video teaches parents what to look for so that they can step in, talk to teachers, and teach their child how to respond to bullies. The video is most appropriate for parents of children in third grade, fourth grade, and fifth grade.
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Should we contact the school?
Should I go directly to the other students parents?

29. What Can Parents Do Why Children Tease Your Reaction Matters
Why Children Tease
Some children tease because they enjoy watching their target become upset when his/her buttons are pushed
Also, the teaser may enjoy the reaction of observers who often laugh at the expense of the targeted child.
Your Reaction Matters
Your initial response may determine if your child will continue to come to you when he is upset.
Offer support and understanding to let him/her know that you believe in them and are “on their side.”
Listen, while gathering information on what happened
Discuss the facts on why kids tease
The upset the victim the more the Harasser is rewarded, also, the reaction from the bystanders can encourage the Harasser
Support them, Listen to them, Stay Calm and Let them tell you as much information as possible.When they are calm, talk about why kids tease and strategies to deal with it.

30. How Can You help Additional Responses What Can Children Do?
Diffuse the Teasing
Remaining silent and trying to ignore the insult can lead to pent up anger. This resentment can build until children explode in either tears or rage.
trying to “out-tease” the teaser usually just intensifies the fight.
Teach/learn coping skills, such as employing humor.
For example, “You act like a baby,” children can respond with:
“So I’ve noticed.”
“So what?”
“Tell me when you get to the funny part.”
“I heard that one before.”
Additional Responses
STOP! Or tell an adult.
I-messages: “I don’t like it when you roll your eyes when I speak.”
Assertive responses: Look the tormentor straight in the eye and answer in a firm voice, “I will not move to another table.”
Self-talk: To help them stay calm and not react emotionally, they can say to themselves, “I can handle this. I can handle this.”
If the taunting words fall more toward the teasing end – rather than the bullying end – of the continuum, then the key is to diffuse the attack.
You can also help your children develop their own responses that feel comfortable to them. They can “rehearse” with you! Teach them to say STOP!

31. Final Note for Parents Parents can encourage their children to:
form strong friendships with people who will stand by them.
learn self-defense (which not only teaches children how to defend themselves, but also increases their confidence so that they don’t feel they have to fight).
participate in activities that make them feel good about themselves, in which they can excel, and where they can meet children beyond their traditional circles.
Sports, Clubs, Volunteer

32. Questions????