1. Yes!
Refer back to the question on the previous slide. Is this abuse?

2. Refer to the clip (Is this abuse
Refer to the clip (Is this abuse?) and why the answer to the question is YES. The pink highlighted bubbles show some examples of the abuse that are evident in the clip from slide 1. Any relationship can be abusive/unhealthy.
(Yellow colours are other types of abuse)

3. Warning Signs
Being able to tell the difference between healthy, unhealthy and abusive relationships can be more difficult than you might think.
No two relationships are the same.

4. In a healthy relationship, both partners respect and trust one another and embrace each other’s differences.
Both partners are able to communicate their needs effectively and listen to each other, working to resolve conflict in a
rational and non-violent way.

5. Handle problems more effectively
Face Up is a resource which provides an opportunity to explore young peoples relationships and to use the knowledge and understanding gained to make informed choices in the future. 
How?
Handle conflict
Handle problems more effectively
Students are informed about FACE UP and where it will be used in school (in tutor/as a set of lessons/year group) and the skills they will develop from using this resource.
Be able to ask for help
Intervene

7. The Dominator The Friend
Shouts
Sulks
Smashes things
Makes you feel ugly and useless
Calls you names
Cuts you off from your friends
Stops you doing what you want
Never admits they are wrong
Is cheerful
Is consistent
Is supportive
Tells you you’re capable and look good
Uses your name
Trusts you, welcomes your friends and family
Trusts your judgement
Admits to being wrong
Examples of characteristics of healthy and unhealthy relationships. The aim is to start the thinking process of identifying what is healthy and what is unhealthy in a romantic relationship.

8. The Dominator The Friend
Turns against you
Uses others to control you
Never does their share
Controls the money
Expects sex on demand
Seduces people close to you
Expects you to be responsible for their well-being
Threatens you to get their own way
Supports your learning, career choice etc.
Encourages you to be independent
Shares any work
Shares financial responsibility
Accepts that you have a right to say “no”
Is faithful
Takes responsibility for their own well-being and happiness
Can communicate what they want calmly and make compromises

9. What is an unhealthy relationship?
Usually a series of abusive behaviours over a course of time - used to exert power and control over a partner.
Dating Violence
Controlling
Unhealthy
Key terms
Coercive
Abusive relationship

10. Checking phones, emails or social networks without permission
Extreme jealousy or insecurity
Constant belittling or put-downs
Explosive temper
Isolation from family and friends
Physically inflicting pain or hurt in any way
Making false accusations
Erratic mood swings
Possessiveness
Telling someone what to do
Examples of what an unhealthy relationship is.

11. Every relationship is different, but the things that unhealthy and abusive relationships have in common are issues of power and control.
Violent words and actions are tools an abusive partner uses to gain and maintain power and control over their partner.
Any young person can experience dating abuse or unhealthy relationship behaviours, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, socio-economic standing, ethnicity, religion or culture. It does not discriminate and can happen to anyone in any relationship, whether it’s one that is casual and short-term or serious and monogamous.

12. What advice would you give a friend?
Students need to know there is help in school. This slide gives some examples of who students can turn to in school. Students may feel embarrassed seeking help- encourage them to understand this and advise accordingly talking through who the above named individuals are in school and who else they may speak to.
What advice would you give a friend?

13. Where to go for help! Contact 999 if you are in immediate danger
The National Domestic Violence Helpline
The ‘This Is Abuse’ campaign
ChildLine
Men’s Advice Line
Broken Rainbow provides support to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in abusive relationships
It is important to make this section available to students without them having to ask for it. Printing this slide as a compulsory handout, or making the information available on the school website are two ways to approach this. You could also include local organisations who can help with domestic abuse.