1. Dating: The Protection of Purity (1) If you love ME, you will follow ME

2. 2 The Request It would be nice to have a lesson on self-control and discuss lust and appropriate relationship affection for pre- marital couples. It would be nice to have a lesson on self-control and discuss lust and appropriate relationship affection for pre- marital couples. Bible topic, 2 Peter 1:2-3 Bible topic, 2 Peter 1:2-3

3. 3 The Need Young Christians are affected Young Christians are affected – Teen pregnancies, abortion, STDs – Marriage is discarded Be teachers: Be teachers: – Fathers & mothers, Eph. 6:4 – Older men & women, Tit. 2:3-4

4. 4 The Need Young people: Listen, learn & respect Gods will, Prov. 7:1-5 Young people: Listen, learn & respect Gods will, Prov. 7:1-5 Young people: This kind of teaching is designed to help protect your heart! Psa. 119:9; Prov. 4:23; 1 Pet. 5:8 Young people: This kind of teaching is designed to help protect your heart! Psa. 119:9; Prov. 4:23; 1 Pet. 5:8

5. 5 Who goes on a date? You You Your date Your date God God 2 Cor. 5:9; Rom. 12:1; Col. 3:1

6. 6 What are the results? WORLDS VIEW Sin & regret Sin & regret Selfishness… reproach Selfishness… reproach Bitterness… damage to godly relationships Bitterness… damage to godly relationships GODS VIEW Purity, holiness Purity, holiness Self-respect Self-respect Safety, security and godly relationships (Psa. 127:1) Safety, security and godly relationships (Psa. 127:1)

7. 7 What are the results? WORLDS VIEW Temporary pleasure but no lasting satisfaction (Heb. 11:25) Temporary pleasure but no lasting satisfaction (Heb. 11:25) Let nature take its course Let nature take its course GODS VIEW Solid foundation for the future (happiness in marriage) Solid foundation for the future (happiness in marriage) Honor body; a living sacrifice Honor body; a living sacrifice

8. 8 Dating WORLD SAYS If it feels good, do it! (1 Cor. 15:32) If it feels good, do it! (1 Cor. 15:32) GOD SAYS Flee also youthful lusts & protect your purity! (2 Tim. 2:22) Flee also youthful lusts & protect your purity! (2 Tim. 2:22)

9. 9 Gods Warnings and Encouragements Enjoy new experiences of your life in purity, Eccl. 11:9-10; 1 Jno. 3:3 Enjoy new experiences of your life in purity, Eccl. 11:9-10; 1 Jno. 3:3

10. 10 Love or Lust: Do you know the difference? Self-control, Gal. 5:23 Self-control, Gal. 5:23 – the virtue of one who masters his desires and passions, esp. his sensual appetites – Pursue righteousness, faith, love & peace, 2 Tim. 2:22

11. 11 Love or Lust: Do you know the difference? Lust, Col. 3:5 Lust, Col. 3:5 – Evil desire: desire, craving, longing, desire for what is forbidden (1 Jno. 2:15-17) – What are you thinking? Looking at? Why? For how long? (Job 31:1; Matt. 5:28)

12. Love or Lust: Do you know the difference? Lewdness (lasciviousness) Rom. 13:13; Gal. 5:19; Mk. 7:21-23; 1 Pet. 4:3 Lewdness (lasciviousness) Rom. 13:13; Gal. 5:19; Mk. 7:21-23; 1 Pet. 4:3 – Unbridled lust, excess, licentious- ness…shamelessness… wanton (acts or) manners, as filthy words, indecent bodily movements, unchaste handling of males & females, etc. (Thayer, 79-80)

13. Love or Lust: Do you know the difference? Lewdness (lasciviousness) Rom. 13:13; Gal. 5:19; Mk. 7:21-23; 1 Pet. 4:3 Lewdness (lasciviousness) Rom. 13:13; Gal. 5:19; Mk. 7:21-23; 1 Pet. 4:3 – Music videos, dancing, SNL… – Internet pornography, etc. – Caressing, fondling… (Gen. 26:8) – Does your clothing encourage this?

14. 14 Love or Lust: Do you know the difference? Fornication, 1 Cor. 6:18; Gal. 5:19 Fornication, 1 Cor. 6:18; Gal. 5:19 – Outside of marriage, the defilement of sex, Heb. 13:4 (1 Cor. 7:1-2) – Fondling, etc. is the prelude to fornication …prepares the mind and the body for intercourse – Homosexual behavior

15. 15 Love or Lust: Do you know the difference? Lust is selfish & pleases self at the expense of the others Lust is selfish & pleases self at the expense of the others Love is unselfish; it pleases God & the other person before self Love is unselfish; it pleases God & the other person before self

16. 16 The Difference LUST Based on what he/she is, 1 Jno. 2:16; Mt. 5:28; Prov. 6:25 Based on what he/she is, 1 Jno. 2:16; Mt. 5:28; Prov. 6:25 – Outward 1 Pet. 3:3-4; SS 7:1-9 LOVE Based on who he/she is, Prov. 31:30 (10-12); SS 5:8-16 Based on who he/she is, Prov. 31:30 (10-12); SS 5:8-16 – Inward (the person)

17. 17 The Difference LUST Pre-marital sex is not love, it dishonors your body in sinful lusts, Rom. 1: 24; 1 Cor. 6:13 Pre-marital sex is not love, it dishonors your body in sinful lusts, Rom. 1: 24; 1 Cor. 6:13LOVE In marriage, sex is pure & an intimate expression of love, 1 Co. 7:2; Heb. 13:4 In marriage, sex is pure & an intimate expression of love, 1 Co. 7:2; Heb. 13:4 - 1 Cor. 13:4-8 -

18. 18 What Will These Sins Cost Me? Your soul, Matt. 16:26 Your soul, Matt. 16:26 Your innocence, reputation, peace of mind & self-respect (Acts 23:1; 24:16) Your innocence, reputation, peace of mind & self-respect (Acts 23:1; 24:16) – Burden & bondage of sin – You can be forgiven! (1 Cor. 6:9-10; 1 Jno. 1:9)

19. 19 What Will These Sins Cost Me? Your life, Rom. 1:27 Your life, Rom. 1:27 – STDs are rampant (Ages 15-24: ~9 mil. annually) – Are you ready to be a mother? A father? – Life will never be the same

20. 20 What Will These Sins Cost Me? Can you live with the consequences? Heb. 12:15-16 Can you live with the consequences? Heb. 12:15-16 – Some do, but are you willing to pay the price? – Sow to the flesh and reap corruption! Gal. 6:7-8

21. 21 Righteousness, Self-Control & Judgment (Acts 24:25) Nobody can live with God while fulfilling the lusts of the flesh, Gal. 5:16-17, 24-25 (Ro. 8:5-8) Nobody can live with God while fulfilling the lusts of the flesh, Gal. 5:16-17, 24-25 (Ro. 8:5-8) Put it all to death, Col. 3:5-6 Put it all to death, Col. 3:5-6 Are you the answer to a parents prayer for their child? Are you the answer to a parents prayer for their child?