1. Dating and Setting Limits
What are the things a person should decide
before beginning a dating relationship?

2. In this lesson, you will learn to:
Lesson Objectives
In this lesson, you will learn to:
Identify behavior in a dating relationship that will enhance the dignity relating to marriage
Establish strategies for maintaining safe and healthy dating relationships

3. Reasons for Dating Dating
Dating provides opportunities to develop social skills, such as communicating and interacting with a person of the opposite gender.
It allows people to learn more about themselves.
Some people discover new interests, reaffirm their values, and start thinking about the type of person with whom they might like to build a future.

4. Infatuation and Affection
Dating
Infatuation and Affection
Sometimes when a teen is attracted to someone, an infatuation develops.
Although such feelings are natural, it is important not to mistake them for genuine affection.

5. Ways of Expressing Affection
Dating
Ways of Expressing Affection
Communicating with and listening to each other
Holding hands
Hugging
Spending quality time together

6. Deciding to Date Dating
There’s no reason to let anyone pressure you into dating if you’re not ready for it. Some teens choose not to date because:
They’re shy around persons of the opposite gender.
They have other interests or time commitments.
Their family traditions or values don’t allow it.

7. Dating
Group Dating
As a way of easing into dating, many teens go out with groups of friends of both genders. Being part of a group:
Allows teens to develop and practice their social skills without having the pressure of focusing on only one person.
Takes some of the attention away from the individual, helping him or her relax.
Relieves the pressure of being alone with someone new.

8. What to Do on a Date Dating
What you decide to do on a date depends on the person you are with and your common interests.
If you don’t know the person well, a movie might be a good choice.
Going out to dinner or to a school dance are also good options.
You might also try attending a sports event such as a baseball game.
When you get to know each other, you will probably find activities that both you and your date enjoy.

9. Sports or Athletic Activities
Dating
Sports or Athletic Activities
You can consider a date that includes athletic activities such as horseback riding, cycling, hiking, and bowling.
Athletic activities promote health and provide a way for dates to share and develop common interests.

10. Community Activities Dating
What you and your date could do within your community:
Visit the zoo or a local museum.
Go to concerts or plays.
Sign up for a painting, dancing, or photography class together at a local community center.

11. Charitable Activities
Dating
Charitable Activities
Volunteering together can help build strong friendships and dating relationships.
It allows you and your date to contribute to the community in positive ways.
Volunteering is also a great option for group dates.

12. Avoiding Risk Situations
Dating
Avoiding Risk Situations
Understand the role of individual responsibility regarding personal risk behaviors.
Know where
you’re going and
what you will be
doing.
Find out who else
will be there.
Discuss what time
your parents
expect you home.
Avoid places
where alcohol
and other drugs
are present.
Avoid being alone
with a date at
home or in an
isolated place.

13. Healthful Behaviors in a Dating Relationship
Dating Relationships
Healthful Behaviors in a Dating Relationship
Some teens choose to have an ongoing dating relationship with only one person.
This type of relationship may help you develop skills and behaviors that will someday help you mature into a thoughtful caring adult who can commit to a relationship.
However, remember that your teen years are a time for trying many different roles and relationships.
Although beginning and ending dating relationships can be difficult, such experiences help you mature emotionally.

14. Importance of Setting Limits
Your parents or guardians may set limits regarding your dating relationships, such as a curfew to protect your health and safety.
As you mature, you’ll need to know how to set your own limits.
You need to set limits with your date regarding places you’ll go, how you’ll get there, and what you will do.
Setting such limits and making them clear before a date helps you avoid potentially risky situations.

15. Setting Limits on Sexual Activity
Communicate your limit on sexual activity and be clear and firm about your decision to practice abstinence.
You can make this task easier by developing and rehearsing avoidance techniques and refusal skills.

16. Q. For which of the following reasons do students choose not to date?
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Q. For which of the following reasons do students choose not to date?
They are shy about dating issues
Their hearts have been broken before, and they need to take time and space for themselves
They are simply not interested in dating
All of the above

17. A. 4. All of the above Quick Review - Answer
Students choose not to date because they are shy about dating issues, their hearts have been broken before, and they are simply not interested in dating.
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18. Quick Review
Q. Which of the following does not help you to avoid high-risk dating situations?
Knowing where you’re going and what you will be doing
Finding out who else will be there
Leaving all your money at home so you’ll be sure not to have to pay
Discussing with your parents what time you’ll be home

19. Quick Review - Answer
A. 3. Leaving all your money at home so you’ll be sure not to have to pay
Avoiding high-risk dating situations requires all of the following except: Leaving all your money at home so you’ll be sure not have to pay. It’s a good idea to make sure you have money with you in case something goes wrong and you need to call home for a ride.
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20. Quick Review
Choose the appropriate option.
Q. It’s not particularly important to set limits in a dating relationship.
True
False

21. A. False. To avoid potentially risky situations and to protect
Quick Review - Answer
A. False. To avoid potentially risky situations and to protect
your health and safety, it is important to set limits in a dating relationship.
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22. Quick Review
Choose the appropriate option.
Q. Substance abuse plays a significant role in increasing the risk of unsafe behaviors such as sexual activity.
True
False

23. Quick Review - Answer
A. True. Substance abuse plays a significant role in increasing the risk of unsafe behaviors such as sexual activity.
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25. Infatuation and Affection
Dating
Infatuation and Affection
Sometimes when a teen is attracted to someone, an infatuation develops.
Although such feelings are natural, it is important not to mistake them for genuine affection.
Infatuation refers to the exaggerated feelings of passion for another person.

26. Infatuation and Affection
Dating
Infatuation and Affection
Sometimes when a teen is attracted to someone, an infatuation develops.
Although such feelings are natural, it is important not to mistake them for genuine affection.
Affection is a feeling of fondness for someone.

27. Importance of Setting Limits
Your parents or guardians may set limits regarding your dating relationships, such as a curfew to protect your health and safety.
As you mature, you’ll need to know how to set your own limits.
You need to set limits with your date regarding places you’ll go, how you’ll get there, and what you will do.
Setting such limits and making them clear before a date helps you avoid potentially risky situations.
A curfew is a set time at which you must be home at night.

28. Quick Review - Answer
A. Correct! Students choose not to date because they are shy about dating issues, their hearts have been broken before, and they are simply not interested in dating.
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29. Quick Review - Answer
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30. Quick Review - Answer
A. Correct! Avoiding high-risk dating situations requires all of the following except: Leaving all your money at home so you’ll be sure not have to pay. It’s a good idea to make sure you have money with you in case something goes wrong and you need to call home for a ride.
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31. Quick Review - Answer
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32. Quick Review - Answer
A. Correct! To avoid potentially risky situations and to protect your health and safety, it is important to set limits in a dating relationship.
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33. Quick Review - Answer
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34. Quick Review - Answer
A. Correct! Substance abuse plays a significant role in increasing the risk of unsafe behaviors such as sexual activity.
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