1. Banking Time
Treatment Strategy

2. Attachment Problems as Relationship Disturbances
Interactions become constricted and centered around anger, non-compliance, acting-out behavior
Global, Negative, rigid, transitional beliefs form about relationship— “always, never” black-white filters
Negative beliefs influence parent and child behavior, creating a self-fulfilling process
Pattern leads to secure-base failures and increased emotion—behavior dysregulation

3. Banking Time Rationale
Attachment Disturbance—an over-drafted bank account
all relationships have an emotional bank account
this account influences the quality of the interactions between two individuals
positive experiences serve as emotional deposits, where as negative or stressful experiences serve as withdrawals
the normal day-to-day interactions between parents and children are usually sufficient for maintaining balance between deposits and withdrawals
however, in some instances difficulties arise (family stress, parents stress, child temperament issues, etc.) that lead to an imbalance favoring withdrawals
this leads to a stressed relationship or an attachment wound
consequently, children become angry and defiant toward what they perceive a threat to the attachment relationship
this frequently angers the parent, leading to more stressful parent-child interactions, thus completing a vicious cycle
banking time is a method for repairing wound and restoring the relationship balance
This will increase child compliance and cooperation

4. HOW TO Basic: tell child you want spend some special time with him
Select a good time and place--logistics
Child selects activity
Parents primary job: to follow child’s lead
No commands; No questions
Learn the art of commentary

5. How to Be in the now Show interest
Emotionally engage, without taking over
Discover at least one new, interesting thing about child
Journaling your experience

6. Dealing with Resistance
Two basic categories
Outcome Resistance—feared outcome
Scape-goating
Role reversal
Fear of intimacy
Fantasy Bond
Process Resistance— the steps are too painful or difficult
Taking time and space
Lack of support
Lack of resources

7. Four Strategies Magic button Paradoxical CBA
Family of Origin interview
Mirroring Empathy