1. RELATIONSHIPS
Intro to Wellness

2. Five Basic Needs Belonging: fitting in with others
Power: feeling important, being respected
Freedom: making your own choices
Fun: finding joy in life
Security: feeling safe both physically and emotionally

3. Types of Relationships
Parent-child
Family
Friendship
Romantic
Student-teacher
Coach-athlete
Peers
Acquaintance

4. What do Relationships Provide?
Love
Companionship
Safety
Shared Interests
Affection
Someone to have fun with
Someone to share hopes & problems – listener
Someone who is there for you
Empathy
Improves health – less production of stress hormones
Increases longevity

5. Characteristics of Healthy Relationships
Romantic
Parent - child
Friend - friend
Teacher/Mentor/Coach - Student

6. Both physically, sexually, and emotionally
Healthy
Definition
(1) Respect
A belief that the other person has value and is appreciated; positive and supportive words to describe the other person
(2) Safety
Both physically, sexually, and emotionally
(3) Support
Building up the other person's confidence & strengths; encouragement
(4) Individuality
Each person in the relationship has their own lives and can focus on their own needs
(5) Equality
The belief that both parties in the relationship share decision making and are free to choose what is right for them
(6) Acceptance
The other person does not try to change you
(7) Trust
The belief that the other person in the relationship has your best interest at heart; being faithful & honest
(8) Communication
Both parties are free to speak what is on their minds
(9) Fun
Being in this relationship is enjoyable

7. Characteristics of Unhealthy Relationships
Romantic
Parent - child
Friend - friend
Teacher/Mentor/Coach - Student

8. (6) Other person tries to change you
Unhealthy
Definition
(1) Disrespect
The belief that it is acceptable to disregard another person's feelings, ideas, opinions, or wishes; this could be name calling, put downs, cheating
(2) Abuse
Physical, sexual, and/or emotional
(3) Relationship = sex
The belief that the main focus of the relationship is sex
(4) Jealousy
Combination of possessiveness, suspicion, rage, & insecurity
(5) Manipulation
The belief that it is acceptable to lie or use another person's emotions of vulnerabilities to get what is desired; this could include guilt trips, using alcohol to get sex
(6) Other person tries to change you
The other person makes suggestions or comments in effort to change the other person
(7) Obsession/Possession
The belief that another person is an object to use for one's personal benefit; including stalking, objectification, or controlling behaviors
(8) No independence
Not able to do things apart
(9) Drama
The belief that making up/breaking up, yelling, arguing, destroying property or a sense of conflict is part of a normal relationship

9. Dating Relationships Develop over time and may consist of: Friendship
Romantic Love
Intimacy involving sexual activity

10. Stages of a Dating Relationship
Infatuation
Short-term, intense attraction to someone new
Based on physical, sexual attraction, status, personality
Think about the other person all the time, spend all your free time with the other person and not with other friends, go out of your way to see the other person, don't want to hear anything negative about the other person, tend to make high risk choices, seeing the person as perfect, obsession
Many times infatuation will end as a new person becomes object of desire
Other times infatuation may mature as people get to know each other over time

11. Stages of a Dating Relationship
Discovery
The initial excitement of being together is subdued so you can discover who the other person really is
You and your partner figure out each other’s quirks and things that bug you
Figure out things that you like and respect about the other person
You may discover that you are not right for each other after the infatuation has worn off

12. Stages of a Dating Relationship
Commitment
The relationship is settled, you know that you are together
Share similar values, beliefs, interest, personality
There is a concern for well-being of the other
Relationship is built on trust and communication

13. Relationships Portrayed in Music
Music, like food, can feed our brains and give us energy. But, it can also be filled with ingredients that can affect us negatively. Some music may even have an influence on our health and the health of our relationships.
Let’s look at the nutritional value of some music lyrics!

14. Unhealthy Relationship Ingredients: Disrespect Abuse
Nutritional Impact
Amount Per Serving:
Present (X)
Intensity Level (1-5)
Unhealthy Relationship Ingredients:
Disrespect X
Abuse
Relationship = Sex
Jealousy
Manipulation
Try to change you
Obsession/Possession
No independence
Drama
Healthy Relationship Ingredients:
Respect
Safety
Support
Individuality
Equality
Acceptance
Trust
Communication
Fun