1. Reaching your teenagers heart! ! !
Why this topic?

2. Why conflict?
Conflict happens when two people disagree based on their own goals, values, or beliefs.

3. When we want to reach our teenager’s heart, we must understand:
1. The process they are going through in developing their goals, values or beliefs and what these goals, values or beliefs actually are.
2. That people build masks/shells around
themselves.

4. Everyone uses defence mechanisms.
In close relationships, where your deepest emotions are often aroused, it’s even more likely that you’ll rely on your defences to help you manage those emotions.

5. There are three main categories
of defence mechanisms:
Isolation allows you to protect your own self-representation by keeping yourself clueless about your flaws and missteps. You might use projection blaming, denial.

6. The second category of defence mechanisms involves compensation, in which you turn to ways of alleviating negative emotions by, for example, abusing substances.

7. The third category is self-dissipation, in which you turn all of your anxieties onto some idealized version of yourself in what can become a form of grandiosity.

8. 1. Be appropriately transparent.
Keys to Effectively Reach Today’s Teenagers
1. Be appropriately transparent.
2. Be authentic.
3. Show teens respect.
4. We must invest significant
time in the relationship.

9. 5. We must take an interest in their world.
6. We must offer kind words that show
sincere empathy.
7. We must use meaningful touch
in an appropriate way.
8. We must bathe our kids in
unconditional love.

10. Pursuing the hearts of our kids will be a journey that never stops.
The Biggest Challenge
Pursuing the hearts of our kids will be a journey that never stops.

11. The Biggest Challenge
Keeping a child's heart is much easier than trying to re-capture it once it is gone.

12. The Biggest Challenge
Wise parents who want to influence their kids will focus their lives on building and nurturing a powerful love connection with them.

13. A connection that evolves and changes as their kids get older.
The Biggest Challenge
A connection that evolves and
changes as their kids get older.

14. The Biggest Challenge
They will learn to patiently love their kids as they move through the challenges of adolescence.

15. Enjoy the journey!!!