2. Worldliness

3. Worldliness
Misuse of the Tongue

4. Being A Christian Affects The Way One Talks
Ps 39:1
I said, "I will guard my ways,
Lest I sin with my tongue;
I will restrain my mouth with a muzzle, While the wicked are before me."

5. Many Misuses of the Tongue
Lying
Cursing
Casual Oaths
Angry Words
Gossip
Flattery
Grumbling
Complaining
How We Misuse
Our Tongues
In Dealing With
One Another

6. Misuse of the Tongue
I. Tongue Is A Danger

7. I. Tongue Is A Danger It is never fully tamed
James 3:8 - “no man can tame the tongue”
Illustration: Horse broke - can’t fully trust him (Psa. 32:9)
Even most mature - must work at it!

8. I. Tongue Is A Danger It is never fully tamed
Will give an account for every word (Matt. 12:36-37)
Easily guilty of what say is true of others
Can sin with the tongue
Rom. 1:29
Gal. 5:20
2 Cor. 12:20

9. Misuse of the Tongue
I. Tongue Is A Danger
II. What It Can Do

10. II. What It Can Do Sin against a brother (Matt. 18:15-17)
Slander (Jas. 4:11-12; Prov. 10:18; 1 Pet. 2:1)
“Accusing falsely…given to finding fault with the demeanor and conduct of others, and spreading their innuendos and criticisims in the church” (Vine, IV:39)

11. II. What It Can Do Sin against a brother (Matt. 18:15-17)
Slander (Jas. 4:11-12; Prov. 10:18; 1 Pet. 2:1)
Gossip / Busybody (1 Tim. 5:13)
“To be working round about, instead of at one’s own business…to be meddling with, or bustling about, other people’s matters…some who are not busied in their own business, but are over busied in that of others” (Vines)

12. II. What It Can Do Sin against a brother (Matt. 18:15-17)
Slander (Jas. 4:11-12; Prov. 10:18; 1 Pet. 2:1)
Gossip / Busybody (1 Tim. 5:13)
Backbiting (Rom. 1:30; Prov. 25:23; Psa. 15:3)

13. Misuse of the Tongue
I. Tongue Is A Danger
II. What It Can Do
III. Effect It Can Have

14. III. Effect It Can Have Destroy neighbor (Prov. 11:9)
Reveal secrets (Prov. 11:13; 20:19)
Sows strife (Prov. 16:28)
Separates friends (Prov. 16:28; 17:9)
Destroy a church (Gal. 5:15)
Like poison (Jas. 3:8)
Fire (Jas. 3:6)

15. Misuse of the Tongue
I. Tongue Is A Danger
II. What It Can Do
III. Effect It Can Have
IV. How To Prevent It

16. IV. How To Prevent It
Restraint

17. Restraint Prov. 10:19 Prov. 15:7 Prov. 16:23 Prov. 17:27-28
Don’t have to say all you want to say

18. IV. How To Prevent It
Restraint
Careful what say to & about others

19. Be Careful 1. What you tell may be confidential
2. What you say could be taken differently than you intend
3. Prov. 11:13
4. Prov. 29:11
5. Jas. 1:19
6. What you say may be repeated / quoted

20. IV. How To Prevent It Restraint Careful what say to & about others
Careful how choose your words

21. How Make sure you convey what you want How? Use tact (Prov. 15:1)
Think before you speak (Prov. 15:28; 12:18)
Watch timing (Prov. 15:23)

22. IV. How To Prevent It Restraint Careful what say to & about others
Careful how choose your words
Careful what you repeat

23. Repeat Two sides to story (Prov. 18:17)
2. Don’t jump to conclusions (Prov. 18:13)

24. IV. How To Prevent It Restraint Careful what say to & about others
Careful how choose your words
Careful what you repeat
Give the benefit of the doubt

25. Benefit
1 Cor. 13:7
“But it must mean, that in regard to the conduct of others, there is a disposition to put the best construction on it; to believe that they may be actuated by good motives, and that they intend no injury; and that there is a willingness to suppose, as far as can be, that what is done is done consistently with friendship, good feeling, and virtue.” - Barnes
“Is ever ready to believe the best of every person, and will credit no evil of any but on the most positive evidence.” Clarke
Prov. 14:15
Do I have
evidence?
Is there another
Explanation?
Prov. 18:13
Prov. 29:20
Hasty words

26. Misuse of the Tongue
I. Tongue Is A Danger
II. What It Can Do
III. Effect It Can Have
IV. How To Prevent It

27. Every one of us can work harder at being careful about:
What we say
How we say it
To whom we say it