2. Session Four: Building Personal Responsibility
Overview
Session One:
Healthy Relationships
Session Two: Building a strong family
Session Three: Meeting Our Children’s needs
Session Four: Building Personal Responsibility
Session Five: Teaching Healthy Relationships
Session Six:
Our long term aim—loving our kids so they live God’s Kingdom

3. Session Four: Building Personal Responsibility

4. Levels of Relationships in our Family life
Husband & Wife

5. Children
Husband & Wife

6. Extended family
Children
Husband & Wife

7. Close friends
Extended family
Children
Husband & Wife

8. Other friends
Close friends
Extended family
Children
Husband & Wife

9. Other friends Other acquaintances Husband & Wife Close friends
Extended family
Children
Husband & Wife

10. Couple discussion:
Where are the boundaries in our marriage?
What boundaries do we have in our family?
What changes
do we need
to consider
making?

11. Build freedom through use of Boundaries
The foundation of the family is unconditional love. A child growing up wants and needs to know where the boundaries are and who is going to enforce them.
When boundaries don’t exist people manipulate us by:
Guilt
Demanding an explanation
Anger
Whining 
Martyrdom

12. Changing how we relate from fear and punishment to love and freedom

13. When love and freedom replace fear and punishment as the motivating forces in the relationship between parent and child, the quality of life improves dramatically for everyone.

14. How to Set Boundaries Start Young Choose the right battles
Gradually extend the boundaries
Work Together

15. Discussion:
Do we want to make the shift from fear and punishment to love and freedom in our family?
How will we make this change?
What help do we need as a family?

16. Quick!
Escape
Have a coffee break