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Changing Kids’ Lives Deborah Giboa, MD
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Chores are the canary in the coal mine of kids’ character…
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hap·pi· ness: noun good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy
INGREDIENTS: Confidence Competence Relationships hap·pi· ness: noun
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WHY RESPECT? Turns an obligation into an achievement
Transforms interaction into relationship Gives an individual the certainty of belonging
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RESPECT WHAT IS IT? Recognizing worth or excellence
Showing regard or consideration Impossible to give if you don’t have any Crucial for success.
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RESPECT REQUIRES COMMUNICATION
Tone of voice. Titles of respect. Eye contact Body Language Privacy Look up and around
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RESPONSIBILITY Chores/roles Homework Practice Leadership Service
One work ethic; sentences
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WHY DO ADULTS SAY NO? Love Genuine enjoyment responsibility Fear
Future consequences Relationship rupture Guilt
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CULTURE OF “SUCCESSFUL” FAMILIES
Myth vs Truth
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SOURCE: Journal of Child and Family Studies, Feb 2013
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THE COST “Students who reported having over-controlling parents reported significantly higher levels of depression and less satisfaction with life. Furthermore, the negative effects of helicopter parenting on college students’ well-being were largely explained by the perceived violation of students’ basic psychological needs for autonomy and competence.”
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HOW DOES FAILURE HELP? independence → confidence Leads to competence
Builds relationship Teaches resilience. 12
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RESILIENCE CHALLENGES
Mistakes Accidents Pain Social consequences Judgment 11:00 News…
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WHAT WOULD BE BETTER? Doing = learning. Doing builds resilience!
Life skills Relationship skills Problem-solving! Look for chances to take one step back.
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RESILIENCE “I’ll be interested to see what you do!” Mistakes Praise
Life lessons Choices Risk-taking Resources! “I’ll be interested to see what you do!”
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“Happiness Now” Pressure
Unattainable Conflicts with resilience Removes opportunity for resilience “practice” Causes us to change the narrative to support everything being ok Limits the resources we offer We’re terrible at predicting it for others
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Resilience in Practice
Build trust Demonstrate gratitude Express empathy Connect resources Offer solutions Resilience in Practice
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“That’s a pretty fine fix you’ve gotten yourself into there, kiddo.
I’ll be interested to see what you do.”
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Empathy without intervention.
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