1. How to recover from low self-esteem
A feeling of being unacceptable in a fundamental way

2. Do I matter?

3. Invalidating experiences
Cruel or indifferent behavior Feelings ignored or minimized

4. Invalidating experiences
Treated like a burden Not Being protected

5. Self-worth vs. Self-esteem
Self esteem is built on a foundation of self worth Internalized self worth = Stable Self-esteem
Failure to internalize Self-worth

6. Conclusion: Loveable or un-loveable

7. Anxieties from diminished sense of self

8. Fear of confirming one’s inadequacy
Relentless pursuit of success Fear of failure

9. Fear of confirming one’s inadequacy
Procrastination

10. Fear of confirming one’s inadequacy
Denying weakness

11. Fear of exposing one’s true self
Self-consciousness and sensitivity Superficial relationships
Resulting in feeling disconnected and alone

12. Fear of loosing one’s achievements
Imposter and fraud
External attributions of success Fails to reach potential

13. Fear of abandonment
Belief of being bad and undeserving Fear of rejection
Sabotaging relationships

14. Cycle of negative self-image
What are my self-defeating behaviors?
How do people react when I act this way?
How do I feel in response to their actions?
What do I believe about myself and then how do I act?

15. Self-defeating behaviors
Hyper-vigilance

16. Self defeating behaviors
Low Threshold for perceiving insult Viewing mistakes as unacceptable
Attribution of accomplishments to external factors

17. Self defeating behaviors
Compulsion to please

18. Self-defeating behaviors
Need for external validation

19. Self-defeating behaviors
A tendency to engage in controlling behaviors A tendency to mask difficult emotions

20. How to recover from low self-worth
Acknowledge insecurity
Recognize your particular self-defeating behaviors

21. How To Recover From Low Self-Worth
Find the courage to take the opposite action despite emotional discomfort

22. Prepare to leave the nest
A psycho-educational program from college and adulthood