2. Session 5 Social Norms and Bystander Intervention

3. Some ground rules Confidentiality Appropriate language Attendance
We will be learning and working together as a group in this programme
Some of the material we will be discussing will be sensitive and some of us will have had personal experience of the things we discuss
We will all be be respectful of personal emotions as we learn
Some ground rules
Confidentiality
Appropriate language
Attendance
Communicating with the facilitator
Please be aware that we will be talking about sensitive issues and issues that might have affected you or people you care about. If you feel uncomfortable or upset it is fine to leave the space. Facilitators will understand and are trained to help you.

4. Social Norms feedback

5. 4 Stages for intervention
1. Notice the event
2. Interpret it as a problem
3. Feel responsible for dealing with it
4. Possess necessary skills to act
Adapted from Berkowitz, A. (2009) Response Ability: A Complete Guide to Bystander Intervention, Beck & Co., p.10

6. New Zealand bystander video

7. Discussion questions Who could have intervened to stop this happening?
When could they have intervened?

8. Bystanders
The Flatmate
The Stranger
The Bartender
The Best Friend

9. Bystander Intervention OptionsOR
Decide to Intervene
During the incident
After the incident
Confrontation:
Set limits or express feelings
Change the focus:
Non-participation
Change the subject
Interrupt / distract
Change the person/shift attitudes
Assess norm
Engage allies & bystanders
Make a plan
Develop a support for next step
Offer support to the victim
Indirect
(to the bystander)
Direct
(to the offender)
Adapted from Berkowitz, A. (2013). A Grassroots’ Guide to Fostering Healthy Norms to Reduce Violence in our Communities: Social Norms Toolkit. USA: CDC.
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11. Range of Behaviours Mutually flirtatious, playful
Healthy, age-appropriate, mutually respectful, safe
Mutually flirtatious, playful
Situation- or age-inappropriate or non-mutual
Harassment
Sexually abusive & violent
Adapted from Cordelia Anderson via Tabachnick, J. (2010). Making a Difference: Your role in preventing sexual violence on campus. NSRVC.org/saam 11

12. Golden Rule
Only intervene when it is safe for you to do so. If not safe, in an emergency, dial 999

13. DURING AFTER WHEN? Advantages Disadvantages
Adapted from Berkowitz, A. (2009) Response Ability: A Complete Guide to Bystander Intervention, Beck & Co., chapter 3.

14. How might you intervene in the moment?

15. Suggestions Shift the focus Confrontation
Interrupt the behaviour (diversion / distraction)
Don’t respond
Don’t laugh or engage
Leave
Deflection – changing the subject
Reframe – change the remark into something positive
Confrontation
Say why it is unacceptable
Say why it bothers you
Raise consequences that the offending person identifies with

16. How might you intervene later?

17. Suggestions Confrontation Shift the person / change attitude
Ask another person to intervene
Offer help to the victim

18. Confrontation - I care - I see - I feel - I want - I will
Express interest in offending person
Give reasons why you are concerned
Share how you/others feel
Ask if the offending person understands your point
Look at alternative behaviour/ support them in change
Adapted from Berkowitz, A. (2009) Response Ability: A Complete Guide to Bystander Intervention, Beck & Co., pp.42-44
- I care
- I see
- I feel
- I want
- I will
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19. Shift the person / change attitude
Make them understand why they behave as they do and why their behaviour is problematic so you change their attitude
Needs a conversation with respect for all – listening is important
Identify what is underlying the behaviour
Engage in ‘open talk’ – show interest in understanding the person and why they behave as they do
Adapted from Berkowitz, A. (2009) Response Ability: A Complete Guide to Bystander Intervention, Beck & Co., pp.47-51