1. About You Lesson 2: Healthy Relationships with Others

2. What does it mean to have a healthy relationship (with others)?
Mind Map
What does it mean to have a healthy relationship (with others)?

3. Learning objectives
I can describe the characteristics of a healthy relationship, and when a relationship is not healthy.
I can explain why consent is important and identify situations in which a person may be unable to give consent freely.
I know how to assertively withhold or withdraw consent.
I know how and where to seek help if I am worried or upset.

4. SCENARIO 1
Mark sends a sexy text message to Priya, which makes her feel uncomfortable. She asks him to stop and he sends another one.

5. Ajay asks Ben if he can touch Ben’s body. Ben smiles and says, “yes”.
SCENARIO 2
Ajay asks Ben if he can touch Ben’s body. Ben smiles and says, “yes”.

6. SCENARIO 3
Aimee asks Joanna if they can have sex. Joanna says “yes” but is frowning and not making eye contact with Aimee.

7. What is consent?
Legal definition (Sexual Offences Act 2003) ‘A person consents if he agrees by choice, and has the freedom and capacity to make that choice’ Remember: anyone can offer, withhold or withdraw consent at any time and for any activity (sexual or otherwise)

8. What is consent?
In certain situations, someone might lack the freedom and capacity
to give consent.
For example, this could be due to:
their age
mental or emotional state
being under the influence of alcohol/substances
being pressured, manipulated or lied to
The person SEEKING consent is ALWAYS responsible for making sure
that consent is given.

9. Remember, we don’t just use our voices to give or withhold consent
Remember, we don’t just use our voices to give or withhold consent. Pay attention to non-verbal cues.
There are six universal facial expressions.
Can you identify them?

10. Which of these might indicate that a person is NOT giving their consent?
JOY
SURPRISE
FEAR
SADNESS
DISGUST
ANGER

11. Activity Sheet: Getting consent?
Read through the scenarios, in pairs or threes, and discuss whether or not you think that consent is being given in each case.

12. Activity: The power of ‘NO’
Can you get your partner to give you
his or her ice cream?
Example arguments:
“Come on, I only want a tiny taste – what harm could it do?”
“If you care about me, you’ll let me”
“You gave me a taste last time you had an ice cream”
“My other friend would give me a taste”

13. Video case study – jada and lewis
Pause the video half-way through and use the next slide for discussion prompts.

14. Activity: Advice vlog
Imagine you run a popular YouTube vlog with a large teenage fan following, including Jada and Lewis.
You have decided to use your weekly vlog to give advice to either Jada or Lewis, as well as to other young people who might be in a similar situation.
Either:
write three key messages, or
film a short vlog with the messages you want to get across

15. Seeking help
If you’re worried about anything, it’s ALWAYS best to find someone to talk to.
Family
Friends
Teachers
School nurse or counsellor
Childline – a free private and confidential service for children and young people. Counsellors listen and provide advice by phone, or web chat