1. Love Marriage and Family Ties: Intergenerational Patterns in Genograms Presented by Rita DeMaria, Ph.D. Council for Relationships July 3, Smart Marriages Happy Families San Francisco, CA

2. Love, Marriage and Family Ties
All family members are connected
How to identify needed personal and relationship changes
Begin a process of discovery and growth

3. Love, Marriage and Family Ties
Increase awareness of how relationship patterns are transmitted through time as family legacies
Increase empathy for partner’s needs, issues, and vulnerabilities
Depersonalize current relationship struggles and facilitate problem solving and resolution

4. 5 Types of Focused Genograms
Connections and Cutoff
My Mother, My Father, Myself
Legacy of Love
His/Her Story
Traumas and Tragedies

5. Connections and Cutoffs
Exploring patterns of closeness
Handling life challenges through connection or disconnection
Family secrets are often covered by disconnections and cut-offs

6. My Mother, My Father, Myself
Exploring the importance of our Mothers and Fathers
Relationships with the same sex parent
Gender Roles: Husband, Father, Man; Wife, Mother, Woman

7. Legacies of Love Exploring patterns of love and marriage
Time Lines are helpful

8. His/Her Story Exploring family legacies from the past
Understanding our heritage
Historical events help you gain awareness
Repetition of patterns across generations

9. Traumas and Tragedies Exploring the impact of losses and challenges
Big “T” traumas
Little “t” traumas

10. Workshop Format Introduction of the genogram construction
Sample genogram
Exercise for each genogram
Genogram Format
Time Line
Reflection Questions
Action Plan

11. The Workshop Process The Focused Genogram The Reflection The Time Line
The Action Plan

12. My Mother My Father My Self
Presentation
Exercise

13. Love Marriage and Family Ties
is available as a TOOB

14. Thank you for your attendance
For more information contact Rita DeMaria, Ph.D.