1. Parenting with Love and Logic Introduction
Based on the book written by Jim Fay and Dr. Foster Cline
Presented by Rana Cummins, Independent Facilitator

2. Why do we call our approach “Love and Logic® parenting”?
Love is essential to parenting.
Love is not:
Hovering around your children to protect them
Tolerating outlandish, disrespectful, or illegal behavior

3. Why do we call our approach “Love and Logic® parenting”?
Love is:
Maintaining a healthy relationship
Empowering our children to make their own decisions
Allowing them to live with their own mistakes
Allowing them to grow through the consequences

4. Why do we call our approach “Love and Logic® parenting”?
Logic centers on the consequences themselves.
Logic allows are children to:
Figure out for themselves the cause-effect patterns of how their decisions and behaviors lead to certain consequences.
Know that we love, support, and feel empathy for them, BUT will not bail them out.
Develop responsibility as they work through and solve their own problems.

5. The Rules of Love and Logic
Rule #1 Adults set firm limits in loving ways without anger, lecture, or threats.
Rule #2
When a child causes a problem the adult hands it back in loving ways.

6. How do we hand the problem back to our children in a loving way?
In a loving way, the adult holds the child accountable for solving the problem in a way that does not make a problem for others.
Children are offered choices with limits.
Adults use enforceable statements.
Adults provide delayed/anticipatory consequences.
Refer to page 27 in the book. Let’s see how this might look in a real situation.
The adult’s empathy is “locked in” before consequences.
Let’s listen to the audio recording and then discuss how the parent applied these rules.

7. The Delayed or “Anticipatory” Consequence
Why not immediate consequences?
Problems with Immediate Consequences:
We tend to have difficulty thinking of them in the heat of the moment.
We “own” the problem.
We are forced to react while upset.
We don’t have time to anticipate our child’s reaction.
We don’t have time to develop a plan.
We make threats.
We fail to deliver empathy.
Refer to page 35
Take care of yourself, and give yourself a break!!

8. Neutralizing Childhood Arguing
Do your children ever try to avoid consequences by arguing or manipulating?
Do you ever spend too much time on this?
Try this simple technique…….
Go BRAIN DEAD!!

9. Neutralizing Childhood Arguing
Love and Logic Instant Empathetic Response
One-Liners
The expression of genuine empathy soaks up emotions.
Wow. What a bummer.
Hope things go better for you.
If anyone can learn from this mistake, it’s you.
I am sure it is hard to be you at times.
That’s a problem for you, that’s for sure.
It is important that Love and Logic One-Liners be used in the “broken record” form.
I love you too much to argue.
What did I say?
I know.
Thanks for sharing.
I argue at 5 A.M. on Saturdays.
Refer to page 180

10. Additional Information
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