1. Social Survival Skills
October 2018

2. After this lesson, students will be able to:
Recognize and identify harmful social behaviors
Differentiate between Bullying and other harmful behaviors
Describe the roles of aggressor, victim, bystander, and upstander
Identify factors that contribute to resilience

3. Please join Google Classroom “v0c4mx” Complete “Pre-Test”

4. What is Aggression?
Aggression is any behavior that intentionally causes harm to others.
The harm may be Physical, Verbal, or Relational (Social)
This can be direct (to your face) or indirect (behind your back)

5. When does aggression become Bullying?
Pattern of multiple aggressive incidents
Intentional
Unprovoked / One-Way
Power Imbalance

6. Sometimes, people are just plain rude...
Rude behavior may be offensive, impolite, ill-mannered
It is inconsiderate of the feelings of others
May cause harm, but without intent
Usually can be corrected with awareness

7. Google Classroom Small Group Scenarios

8. You must be the change you wish to see in the world.

9. Social Aggression Roles
Aggressor - The person who causes harm to others. ​
Target - The person who is hurt by the aggression.
​Bystander - Not an aggressor or target. Caught somewhere in between. Often scared, stuck and silent. Bystanders are involved in the aggression
Upstander – The person who sees the aggression and chooses to take action to prevent further harm.

10. Be an Upstander Offer support to the target​
Refuse to be an audience​ - don’t laugh or encourage
Be a dead end for rumors / gossip​
Involve your friends​ /Make room in your social circle​
Talk to a helpful adult​
Report the bullying behavior

11. What to do if you experience bullying
Firmly tell the aggressor to stop.
Try to act unimpressed
Ignore the behavior
Walk away
Don’t believe what the bully tells you
Report the bullying behavior
Seek Support
Remember - Bullying is about power. When you don’t react, you keep your power.

12. What Not to do if you experience Bullying:
Don’t think it's your fault. Nobody deserves to be bullied!
Don’t fight back or bully a person back
Don’t keep quiet and hope it will "go away." Report it!
Don’t skip school or avoid after school activities because you're afraid.
Don’t be afraid to tell. Standing up for yourself is NOT tattling!
Don’t hurt yourself physically, socially, or academically. This is when good self care is most important!

13. What to do if you experience Cyber Bullying
Don’t respond
Save the evidence
Block and delete the sender
Report to service provider
Talk to a trusted adult
Report threats or other illegal communications to the police

14. Reporting Bullying
Report any bullying behavior that you experience or witness:
Online: rveyID=265
Counselor Box
In Person
Any aggression violates CCG behavior standards, and should be reported to a teacher, counselor, or administrator.

15. Thoughts about “Snitching”
Standing up for yourself (or others) is never a bad thing.
Students worry that if they speak up, they will be labeled a “Snitch.”
But “snitch” is an insult made up by people who want to do the wrong thing without facing the consequences.
It is just one more way for them to take power from you, and keep it for themselves.

16. Let’s be real. Guilty people call it snitching.
The rest of us just call it speaking the truth.

17. Experiencing repeated aggression can lead to:
Depression​
Low self-esteem​
Isolation​
Hopelessness​
Anger​
Aggression​
A feeling of having “nothing to lose”​
Poor choices / high risk behaviors

18. Resilience The ability to cope with life’s ups and downs.
Being able to move on from an event that has a negative effect on your life.
Resilience

19. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~Eleanor Roosevelt*

20. Factors that contribute to resilience
Caring and supportive family
Supportive and trustworthy friends
Confidence in your skills and talents
Setting and meeting realistic goals
Involvement in clubs and groups
Passion for hobbies and activities
Communication skills
Problem Solving skills
The ability to manage your emotions

21. Google Classroom: Complete Post-Test