1. MANAGING
YOURS, MINE, OURS

2. hap·pi· ness: noun good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy
INGREDIENTS:
Confidence
Competence
Relationships
hap·pi· ness: noun

3. “Happiness Now” Pressure
Unattainable
Conflicts with resilience
Removes opportunity for resilience “practice”
Causes us to change the narrative to support everything being ok
Limits the resources we offer
We’re terrible at predicting it for others

4. FEELING ANXIOUS “Normal anxiety”
Feeling of uneasiness about danger or misfortune
Caused by discomfort
Often protective
A way of checking bonding

5. STRESS
Strain or tension
Physical
Mental
Emotional

6. ACUTE RESPONSE Perceived threat Cortisol dump Inability to reason
Less than a second to start
Minutes to stop

7. PHYSIOLOGIC VS PATHOLOGIC
Temporary
Persistent
Limited in scope
Interferes with ADLs
Limited in effect
Out of context
TRUST YOUR GUT

8. GOOD & BAD STRESS CAUSE New stimuli Unknown patterns Change
Unknown support system
CHANGE IN AUTONOMY

9. Comfort vs Discomfort Comfort Security Healing Identity Discomfort
Learning
Change
GROWTH

10. CULTURE OF “SUCCESSFUL” FAMILIES
Myth:
“Only I can fix this!”
Truth:
Failure must be experienced.

11. OPPORTUNITIES FOR GROWTH
Discomfort
Identifying problems
Expressing feelings
Building supports
TAKING CONTROL

12. RESILIENCE CHALLENGES
Mistakes
Accidents
Pain
Social consequences
Judgment
11:00 News…

13. When not if
Set expectations
Remove the premise of failure as disappointment
Model the cycle

14. When-not-if Language Set Remove Model Set expectations
Model the cycle
Remove
Remove the premise of failure
Set
Set expectations
When-not-if Language

15. 5 protective factors of resilience
social competence
problem-solving skills
autonomy
sense of purpose
use of storytelling
5 protective factors of resilience

16. Resilience in Practice
Resilience in REALITY
Build trust
Demonstrate gratitude
Express empathy
Connect resources
Offer solutions
Resilience in Practice

17. Resilience in Practice
Resilience SHARING
Develop your own
Honor others
Shared journey
Resilience in Practice

18. TAKE AWAY STRATEGIES When-not-if language Set good expections
Build trust
Don’t forget empathy
Help the whole team