1. HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT From adults, friends, yourself
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Deborah Gilboa, MD

2. If you could wave a magic wand...
What do you want for your future?

3. hap·pi· ness: noun good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy
INGREDIENTS:
Confidence
Competence
Relationships

4. WHY DO PARENTS
SAY NO?

5. CULTURE OF “SUCCESSFUL” FAMILIES
The Myth:
“Getting involved will make us both feel better!”
The Truth:
Stepping back helps teens become adults.

6. THE COST
“Students who reported having over-controlling parents reported significantly higher levels of depression and less satisfaction with life. Furthermore, the negative effects of helicopter parenting on college students’ well-being were largely explained by the perceived violation of students’ basic psychological needs for autonomy and competence.”

7. TEEN BRAIN

8. BRAIN CONFLICT

9. YOUNG ADULT BRAIN Negative emotions are intense
Positive emotions are just as intense
Adrenaline is harder to find 
Considering consequences requires intention
Oxytocin receptors double
Abstract reasoning sky rockets
… needs sleep.

10. REMEMBER HER?

11. AND WHY DO YOU STEP BACK?
Fear 11

12. FAILURE…

13. Assumption of someone else’s value or worth.
RESPECT
Eye contact
Language
Tone
Assumption of someone else’s value or worth. 13

14. Recognizing your obligations and doing your best to meet them.
RESPONSIBILITY
Chores
Homework
Job
Balance
Recognizing your obligations and doing your best to meet them. 14

15. RESILIENCE Ride your emotions – ONCE Find possibilities.
Reach out for resources.
Consider which risk to take.
Notice the consequences

16. FAILURE HAPPENS. THEN WHAT?
How you feel matters.
What you do matters more.

17. STEP UP, SO ADULTS CAN BELIEVE
Respect
RESILIENCE:
Eye contact
Word choice
STEP UP, SO THEY CAN STEP BACK.
Tone
Responsibility
Time management
Resource finding
Life skills

18. SUCCESS NOW IS NOT THE POINT
You’re building:
Confidence
Competence
Relationships

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