1. Who are you?
YWCA’S GUIDE TO healthy SELF ESTEEM, CONFIDENCE, and acceptance in others

2. WHAT IS SELF ESTEEM?

3. Self Esteem
The ability to recognize POSITIVE traits in yourself and others
Accepting these traits as POSITIVE aspects
Confidence in YOURSELF
Impacts the way we FEEL and TREAT others
Full bucket of water when we are born-negative comments are holes and our self esteem drips out

4. Just physical?

5. Nonphysical Characteristics
Ambition
Goals
Success
Aspirations
Intelligence
Confidence
Nonphysical Characteristics

6. What is one ambition of yours?
Strong desire to achieve or do something
AMBITION
What is one ambition of yours?

7. What is one thing you want to achieve?
ASPIRATIONS
The hope of achieving something
What is one thing you want to achieve?

8. What is one area of life that you excel at?
The ability to acquire and apply knowledge and skills
INTELLIGENCE
What is one area of life that you excel at?

9. WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO HAVE CONFIDENCE?

10. CONFIDENCE Feeling of self-assurance in your abilities
The belief you can accomplish a goal
Having trust in yourself and your abilities

11. HEALTHY Confidence Believing we are enough
We have goals, talents, and attributes the world needs
Not concerned what others think of you
Being calm and not worry about situations
Shut down the negative self talk
HEALTHY Confidence

12. UNHEALTHY Confidence Cockiness Arrogance
Building self esteem from outward appearance or financial status
Disrespectful
Blunt to hurt others
UNHEALTHY Confidence

13. What does it mean to fit in?

14. FITTING IN To be accepted by a group because of similarities
Common interests

15. NOT FITTING IN Realize not everyone has the same interests
Your words matter
Accepting others for being different
Just because you don’t agree doesn’t mean you don’t need to be kind
Realizing everyone has different home situations
NOT FITTING IN

16. RAISE SELF ESTEEM When you don’t fit in.
Spend time with people you like and who care about you
Ignore people who put you down
Do things you enjoy
Do things you are good at
Reward yourself
RAISE SELF ESTEEM
When you don’t fit in.

17. RAISE YOUR SELF ESTEEM Develop your talents Be your own best friend
Make your own choices
Take responsibility for your choices
Do what you think is right
Respect others
Have goals
RAISE YOUR SELF ESTEEM

18. TRAITS IN OTHERS Realizing people have different interests
Being kind despite this
Even if you do not agree or like these traits
Smile or a kind word goes a long way
TRAITS IN OTHERS

19. How can a NEGATIVE comment on someone’s picture impact that person?
SOCIAL MEDIA
How can a NEGATIVE comment on someone’s picture impact that person?

20. WHAT TO DO
What should you do when you do not agree with someone’s post or picture?

21. Self Esteem
How do negative comments affect someone’s self esteem, even on social media?

22. Adding a POSITIVE comment
What does leaving a positive comment do? What can you do if you don’t have a positive comment to leave?

23. EMPATHY AND SYMPATHY

24. EMPATHY The ability to understand and share the feelings of other’s
Put yourself in their shoes

25. Sympathy Feeling of pity and sorrow towards someone else
WHY IS EMPTHY MORE IMPORTANT?

26. Ways to EMPATHIZE Realize everyone has a different home life
Including others even those with different interest
May not have finances to buy the cool clothes or school supplies
Being kind even when we do not like someone
You never know what someone is going through
Ways to EMPATHIZE

27. ISOLATION When someone is withdrawn Sitting alone
Does not want to talk in front of class
Does not engage with other students

28. Include Others Ask them to sit by you Say a kind word Smile
Ask them to be part of a group
Stick up for them

29. WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO HAVE BOUNDARIES?

30. Crossed Boundaries Inappropriate comments
Borrow something and never return it
Push you into saying “yes”
Want you to do something that makes you uncomfortable

31. Personal space Constantly touching you Will not give you any space
Always wants to be near you
Making you feel uncomfortable

32. Inappropriate comments
Saying words that you do not agree with
Making comments that make you uncomfortable
Using words your not allowed to use
Saying things you do not want to talk about

33. In friendships and relationships
Verbal
Physical
Emotional
Psychological
Financial
Spiritual
Digital
Abuse
In friendships and relationships

34. Dating violence
Any form of abuse
33% never tell anyone

35. RESPONSE!
Speak up!
Tell a teacher, adult, counselor
TELL SOMEONE!

36. RACHAEL PANIZZI YWCA OUTREACH COORDINATOR rpanizzi@ywcalafayette.org