1. Group Socialization

2. Group Socialization Group Socialization Pair Dating
Sharing gossip, hugging, working on school activities or projects, going to the movies, malls, or to another person’s house to watch movies or eat
Pair Dating
1 girl and 1 guy who have paired off go together for an activity of any kind. The couple know each other well and want to spend time alone.

3. What do you think?
Group 1
What are some advantages of group socialization?
Group 2
What are the potential problems of early pairing?
Present your findings to the class

4. Advantages of Group Socialization
Safety in numbers
Relaxed fun
Meet new people
Easier to communicate
Less opportunity for early physical intimacy

5. Disadvantages of Early Paired Dating
Relationships accelerate more rapidly
More pressure to entertain partner
Might be awkward getting to know them
More expensive
Early physical intimacy

6. Operation Breakup, Part 1
6 minute video clip

7. Operation Breakup, Part 2
6 minute video clip

8. How to End a Relationship
Pick an appropriate place
The less public, the better. Ending a relationship is a humbling experience. Don’t do it in a place where the person on the receiving end is going to feel more vulnerable than necessary.
Choose the right time
Avoid holidays and special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries.

9. How to End a Relationship
Do it in person
Be considerate and don’t take the easy way out.
Be honest, but sensitive
No one likes getting dumped. Be honest and keep their feelings in mind.
Keep your emotions under control
Don’t seem too happy or too sad about the break-up. Be kind, caring and considerate.

10. How to End a Relationship
Use “I” Messages
I feel…
When you…
Because…
What I need…
Share an experience when you have found success with one of these suggestions.
Share an experience of what not to do when ending a relationship.

11. Substitute Breakup
4 minute video clip

12. How to Deal with a Break-up
Realize what happened and why
Realize it takes two to make a relationship work.
Accept your anger/pain and move on
Have a good cry. It’s okay to be angry, but not okay to hang on to that anger. Move on as soon as you can.
Keep your distance
Take a break - No contact, no phone calls, no texting, etc.

13. How to Deal with a Break-up
Think through everything
Ask yourself what went wrong. Learn from the experience.
Talk to your friends and family
Great source of advice, support and counsel. Talk it through with the people that love you the most.
Write your feelings down
Write in your journal/diary, write a song, write a poem, etc. Pour your heart out on paper.

14. How to Deal with a Break-up
Clean personal space
Spring cleaning of your personal space. Get ready for a new beginning.
Keep fond memories
Think of how happy a song, picture or place made you feel when with that person.
Don’t overreact
Don’t jump right into another relationship. Allow yourself time to heal.

15. How to Deal with a Break-up
Find happiness in other areas of your life
There is more to life than being in a relationship. Begin a new hobby, read a new book, etc.
Stay active
Exercise improves your mood.
Let go and move forward
If you don’t let go, you’ll never find Mr. or Mrs. Right!

16. Summary
There are many advantages of group dating and problems of pair dating at your age.
Know how to end a relationship appropriately and how to best deal with a break-up yourself.