1. BUILDING AND DESTROYING SELF-CONCEPT

2. Self-Perception

3. Tips for building Self Esteem
Associate with people, books, videos, television shows, etc., that
build your self-concept
Build others up – give sincere compliments often
Think positively and focus on the positives
Set and achieve goals
Do something challenging each day
Look your best
Eat correctly
Do something for someone else
Learn a new skill
“Act as if” you possess traits you would like to have
Observe self-confident people – find a great role model.
Handle things one at a time
Use criticism constructively and keep it to a minimum.
Ask for help – take advantage of learning opportunities
Improve your personal living space
Allow personal growth time each day
Post self-improvement reminders in obvious places
Do not say negative things about yourself
Reward yourself often
List your accomplishments each evening
Volunteer to share your skills with others

4. Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you can’t change
Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you can’t change. Be more accepting of others and the things they can’t change.
Try not to compare with others. It’s unfair. You may compare their strengths with your weaknesses. Judge yourself in terms of your own growth
Whatever you are doing,
Love yourself for doing it.
Whatever you are feeling,
Love yourself for feeling it.
Thadeus Golas

5. Have Realistic Expectations
–We expect too much from ourselves. Perfection is not possible but bettering our-self should be a lifetime goal.
-We are surrounded by people who appear to be perfect at everything and have everything. These are good to look at but, they have their problems too.

6. Emphasize your strengths.
Change what can be changed. Some things change fast, others gradual, and others never. There are things we inherit and can’t change, but we can always change our attitude about them.
Try new experiences.

7. Watch the Words What If………. (limits you) So What……… (strengthens you)
What if somebody sees me?
So What……… (strengthens you)
So what if somebody sees me.
I Can’t…….. (limits you)
I can’t pass my math test.
I Can, I Will, I’m Going to Right Away! (strengthens you)
There are two different people in the world. One that says “I wish I had” and the one that says “I’m glad I did”. Remember you can have anything in this world if you just believe in yourself.

8. How is Self-Concept Destroyed? How is it NOT Built & Preserved?
DO THE OPPOSITE OF ALL OF THE ABOVE MENTIONED LIKE…..
Comparing yourself to others
Putting yourself down
Putting Others down
Drug and Alcohol abuse
Speaking Negatively
Your 2 Boosters and Busters?

9. HOW DO WE BUILD IT???

10. Accept Yourself Remember you don’t have to be like everyone else
If we were all alike we would
be boring
You will never be able to please everyone
Normal means being up sometimes and down sometimes
Normal means being good at some things and not good at others

11. THIS SIMPLY MEANS YOU ARE NOT PERFECT AND WHO IS?
Forgive Yourself
Everyone makes mistakes
Everyone has to take criticism
THIS SIMPLY MEANS YOU ARE NOT PERFECT AND WHO IS?

12. Learn a New Skill Find something you like to do and do it
Be realistic—not everyone can be a star basketball player!
Share your skill with someone
Remember self-esteem grows when you accomplish things and even more when others recognize what you can do!

13. Reach Out to Others
Helping others gives assistance where needed while building your self-esteem
When you do, others will respond
Help someone in your family
Volunteer in the neighborhood
Visit in a home for the elderly
Show a child how to do something

14. Be Positive Practice making positive choices
Decide to trust rather than worry
Like instead of dislike
Laugh rather than cry
Compliment rather than criticize
When things get tough, try one more time
Give more than you take
Participate –not watch
Be a plus not a minus

15. Be Assertive No one is a doormat Everyone has an opinion
Assertiveness means speaking up for yourself without offending others!
Be comfortable with saying what you think or feel, don’t hide it!
When you see a problem, work to correct it
If you need to say “no” say it with confidence