1. Employing Interdependence
Chapter Five
Employing Interdependence

2. Employing Interdependence
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3. Developing Mutually Supportive Relationships, Journal 15
Focus Question
How could you make accomplishing your success a little easier and much more fun?
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4. Kinds of People DEPENDENT people believe:
I can’t achieve my goals by myself. I need other people to do most of the work for me.
CO-DEPENDENT people believe:
I’ll pursue my goals as soon as I’ve helped others get their goals.
By working hard, I can get some of what I want all by myself. I’ll just do without the rest.
INDEPENDENT people believe:
I know I can get some of what I want by working alone, but I’ll accomplish more and have more fun if I give and receive help.
INTERDEPENDENT people believe:
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5. Creating a Support Network, Journal 16
Focus Question
How could you create and sustain an effective support network to help you achieve your greatest dreams in college and in life?
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6. Guidelines for Starting a Study Group
Choose only Creators
Guideline 2:
Choose Group Goals
Guideline 3:
Choose Group Rules
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7. Strengthening Relationships with Active Listening, Journal 17
Focus Questions
Do you know how to strengthen relationships with active listening?
What are the essential skills of being a good listener?
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8. Clear your mind and remain silent
How to Listen Actively
Step 1:
Listen to understand
Step 2:
Clear your mind and remain silent
Step 3:
Ask the person to expand or clarify
Step 4:
Reflect the other person’s thoughts and feelings
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9. Be Assertive, Journal 18 Focus Question
How can you communicate in a style that strengthens relationships, creates better results, and builds strong self–esteem?
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10. Three Kinds of Communicators
Placators:
Dominated by their Inner Critic
Blamers:
Dominated by their Inner Defender
Levelers:
Piloted by their Inner Guide
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11. Delivering I-Messages
Step 1:
A statement of the situation: “When you ….”
Step 2:
A statement of your reaction: “I felt/thought/decided…”
Step 3:
A request: “I’d like to ask that you…”
Step 4:
An invitation to respond: “Will you agree to that?”
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