1. USING HARSH FEEDBACK TO FUEL YOUR CAREER
FOR EXECUTIVES AND ABOVE

2. We hold ourselves back without even realizing it. Why?
How we initially react to negative feedback can be the difference between success and failure. And it turns out that a variety of natural tendencies work against us when we get criticized.

3. WE CONFUSE BEHAVIOR WITH IDENTITY.
It feels like they are attacking me as a professional, and sometimes even as a person. Of course they don’t mean it that way, but the feeling is overpowering. 

4. WE BELIEVE IN THE FALLACY OF WELL-ROUNDEDNESS.
Over a few painful years, I’ve learned to look for collaborators when I’m not good at something.

5. We’re perfectionists.
When I decide to do something, I want to do it right. The first 90% of a project may only take me a few days. But then the perfectionism starts to kick in, and I will spend another week getting the last few details correct.
All because I can’t figure out when to consider something done.

6. WITH THESE THREE COMMON BIASES IN MIND, CONSIDER FOLLOWING THIS SIMPLE PROCESS AFTER RECEIVING NEGATIVE FEEDBACK. 
Step 1: Embrace emotions. let yourself be upset. Reach out to someone outside work and vent. Allow your emotions to subside before moving forward.

7. Step 2: Don’t demonize. Remember, that person only took the time to offer feedback because they still care about you!
Step 3: Prioritize. You may have to sort through a few different pieces of feedback and determine what’s actually worth tackling.

8. Step 4: Piggyback on a skill
Step 4: Piggyback on a skill. Take this one key area for self-improvement and take a minute — even ten seconds — to think about how you currently behave. Now identify a way you can alter this behavior to improve yourself. 
Step 5: Commit. Incentives are better than discipline. The best way to incentivize yourself is to create an environment of accountability.

9. There is no shortcut to professional growth
There is no shortcut to professional growth. But you can accelerate your development with the right mindset and behaviors
When someone helps you identify your weaker areas, the habit of using their feedback to slingshot your growth will let you make a huge strides over time.