1. Self discovery
J W A Gerald

2. Self Discovery = Search your self
Self = i ’m
Discovery = re search

3. Self-concept: Picture or perception of ourselves
Self Esteem: Feelings we have about ourselves
Self-image: The way we would like to be

4. Self-Concept Circle The person I think I am. 2. The person others
3. The person others think
I think I am.

5. Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs
SELF ACTUALISATION
Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs

6. Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence
Self-Esteem: “What am I worth?”
Self-Confidence: “What can I do?”

7. Self-Esteem Watch your thoughts, they become words
Watch your words; they become actions
Watch your actions they become habits
Watch your habits; they become character
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny

8. Tips for building Self Esteem
Think positively , Set and achieve goals
Do something challenging each day
Look your best and Learn a new skill
Do something for someone else
Handle things one at a time
Use criticism constructively
Allow personal growth time each day
Do not say negative about yourself
Reward yourself often
List your accomplishments each evening
Volunteer to share your skills with others

9. Good Self Esteem

10. Effects of High Self-Esteem
Like to meet new people.
Don’t worry about how others will judge them.
Courage to express themselves.
Enriched with new encounters
Forgive yourself for past mistakes.
Focus on your positive attributes.
Follow the example of successful people.
Become a self talker

11. Self-Esteem
Illustration

12. I’M NOT OK • YOU’RE NOT OK
Life Positions
I’M NOT OK • YOU’RE OK
I’M OK • YOU’RE NOT OK.
I’M NOT OK • YOU’RE NOT OK
I’M OK • YOU’RE OK

13. I AM OK,YOU ARE NOT OK Attitude - i am always right
Generally operates from high critical parent and rebellious child ego states

14. I AM NOT OK,YOU ARE OK. Quite submissive Less innovative
Lacks risk taking responsibilities
Operates mostly from compliant child ego

15. I AM NOT O.K,YOU ARE NOT O.K Most destructive life position
Very low ‘Adult Ego’
Helpless, Depressed, Miserable, Suicidal, Lack of Confidence
Do not trust others

16. I AM OK,YOU ARE OK
High Emotional Intelligence (EQ) most healthy life position
Express confidence in self and trust in others

17. Ways to Change Your self
Life Positions
Ways to Change Your self
1. Re-evaluating Your Basic Life Position.
2. Using Positive Reinforcement.
3. Managing Your Stamp Collection.

18. Clues To Life Positions
Can You Give Strokes Gracefully?
Ability to give compliments easily.
Ability to listen to others.
Ability to accept other views.
Ability to treat others with respect.

19. Clues To Life Positions
Physical Positions
Shows confidence or compulsion.
Relaxed or tense.
Comfortable or ill at ease.
Smiling or hard, sold look.
Good posture vs slouching.

20. Life Positions I’m OK Jerk I’m You’re Not OK Not OK Loser I’m Not OK
Winner
I’m
Not OK
You’re
Not OK
Loser
Sulker
I’m Not OK

21. Choosing Your Life Position
I’M NOT OK • YOU’RE OK
I’M OK • YOU’RE NOT OK.
I’M NOT OK • YOU’RE NOT OK
I’M OK • YOU’RE OK

22. Transactional Analysis
A method of understanding behavior in interpersonal dynamics.
The three EGO states
Parent
Critical parent
Sympathetic parent
Child
Natural child
Adapted child
Adult
Complementary
Crossed
Ulterior

23. Transactional Analysis
Complementary transaction
Supervisor Employee P C A P C A P C A P C A

24. Transactional Analysis
Crossed transaction
Supervisor Employee P C A P C A P C A P C A

25. Transactional Analysis
Ulterior transaction
Supervisor Employee P C A P C A P C A P C A

26. Life Positions I’m OK — I’m OK — Attitude toward Oneself
You’re not OK You’re OK
I’m not OK — I’m not OK —
Attitude toward Oneself
Attitude toward Others
Positive Negative
Positive
Negative

27. Change is hard!

28. Change
“Any attempt to impose your will on another is an act of violence.”

29. Emphasize your strengths.
Change what can be changed.
Try new experience

30. Stages for Change Violence Up Talk Body Talk Feelings What Happened
Before
Values
Attitudes
Beliefs

31. CHANGE FOCUS, LOOK FOR THE POSITIVE
Look for what is right in a person
Be an Optimist

32. Self Image How you see yourself in your own eyes
Self image determines what you get out of life
Self image is the standing point of your life experience.

33. Building positive self Image.
Like your self
Trust your self
Have SWOT Analysis (Self awareness)
Accept your weakness and try to Rectify
Set your Goals high (Always think Big)

34. Building positive self Image.
Visualize your goals
Translate your goals into Actions
Challenge the Failures
Perspire…. Persevere…
till you reach the goals
Celebrate your success.

35. Always think Big.
Think beyond yourself
Think beyond your Family
Think I can..I will.. I must.. .

36. Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you can’t change.
Try not to compare with others.
Judge yourself in terms of your own growth

37. You become
which you think
about most.

38. No one can
Make you feel
inferior Without
your Consent

39. Who has contributed to your self esteem?

40. Types of people People who make things happen.
People who watch what is happening.
People who don’t know what is happening.

41. People who make things happen
Players
Proactive

42. Assertiveness
Confirming confidently, positively. To defend one’s rights or opinions, sometimes with unnecessary zeal. Chambers Dictionary
“I won’t be able to handle it.”
Others’ decisions
Others’ attitudes
Lack of self-belief
Lack of clear intentions 
- FEAR

43. Grounding Steady Reliable and dependable Do one thing at a time.
Get information from sight, sound, touch and taste.
Focused on the “here” and the “now”.
Organized.
Get the work done.
Grounding

44. Creative Future focused - Visionary. Multi-task.
“Go with the flow” attitude.
What if, Why not?
Dislike “status quo”.
Great problem-solvers.
Work “outside of the box”.
Make decisions based on intuition.
Creative

45. Logic If “A”, then “B”. Quantitative thinker
Likes data, statistics, numbers and graphs.
Focuses on the “past”.
The more details-the better.
Test to determine what is next.
Set goals and measure progress.
Logic

46. High
Grounding / Creative / Logic
Study habits
Communication & listening
Work behavior
Motivations
Stressors

47. Putting it all together!
Grounding
Logic
Creative

48. Be A Winner In Life
Choose...
I’M OK • YOU’RE OK!
J W A Gerald