1. Lichfield and district vcse forum – 5 december 2018
Presentation for Pathway Project
Kathy Coe, CEO

2. Why is it hard to leave an abuser. Physical abuse
Why is it hard to leave an abuser? Physical abuse emotional abuse financial abuse sexual abuse coercion control

3. Fiona lives with her partner and 14 year old son works as an admin assistant in a large company Tells no-one of the frequent assaults from her partner

4. Tell tale signs No one ever asks although: frequent visits to a&e written warning at work for unexplained days off and being distracted doesn’t socialise – has no friends partner often takes her to work and picks her up she goes to work with bruises and injuries

5. Why doesn’t she leave? GUILT FEAR SOMEWHERE SAFE TO STAY
SON – GOOD DAD?
MONEY
LOSS OF JOB

6. The impact CONSTANT STATE OF PANIC
CAN’T MAKE FRIENDS OR GET CLOSE TO ANYONE
CAN’T HAVE FAMILY VISITS WITHOUT DISASTER
PHYSICAL HEALTH SUFFERS
MENTAL HEALTH SUFFERS
ANXIETY / DEPRESSION / SELF HARM / SUICIDAL THOUGHTS

7. Who missed the signs? WORK – MANAGERS WORK – COLLEAGUES HOSPITAL GP
SCHOOL
NEIGHBOURS
LIFE IS FULL OF SADNESS, FEAR AND RESIGNATION.

8. Would you spot the signs?
INJURIES
MISSING WORK
NO FRIENDS
CONSTANT CALLS AND MESSAGES FROM PARTNER
ON EDGE
APPEARS SCARED
SON – LIMITED SOCIALISING

9. What do you do if she says yes?
Offer a listening ear but ensure safe space
Is it crisis or lower risk?
Access support from local service / refuge
Advise legal help and advice
TELL HER YOU BELIEVE HER!

10. Any questions?