1. How to Get the Behavior You Want… Without Being the AdultYou Hate!
Deborah Gilboa, M.D.

2. YOU NEED A PLAN 1. Pick a behavior. 2.Decide on consequences.
3. Meet as a family.
4.Stick to it!

3. Methods: CHANGE “HOW- TO” Key ingredient: CONSISTENCY. Distraction
Separation
Non-response
Losing privileges
Contracts
Key ingredient:
CONSISTENCY.

4. 3 R’s of PARENTING
Respect Responsibility Resilience

5. RESPECT Tone of voice. Titles of respect. Eye contact Body Language
Secret Code
Negotiating
Parental privacy
3 sentences; amazing results!

6. RESPONSIBILITY Chores Homework Practice Community service
One work ethic; sentences

7. RESILIENCE CHALLENGES
Mistakes
Accidents
Pain
Social consequences
Judgment
11:00 News…

8. WHAT WOULD BE BETTER? Doing = learning. Doing builds resilience!
Life skills
Relationship skills
Problem-solving!
Look for chances to take one step back.

9. RESILIENCE “I’ll be interested to see what you do!” Mistakes Praise
Life lessons
Choices
Risk-taking
Resources!
“I’ll be interested to see what you do!”

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