1. Getting along with others
Unit 1
Getting along with others
Reading
Secrets and lies & A friendship in trouble

2. Self-reflection:
Think of the most recent conflict
with your friend. What caused it?

3. The reasons leading to
a broken friendship?
Having little in common
There being conflicts of interest
Being jealous of each other
Being indifferent to each other
Not trusting each other
Misunderstanding
Lacking communication
Being hostile to each other …

4. When you have a broken friendship, who can you turn to?
Classmates
Teachers …
a magazine advice columnist

5. Reading The purpose of the two letters is to
______________________ because
______________________
ask for advice
they both fall out with their best friend.

6. Secret:______________________
Secrets and lies
Fast reading:
Secret:______________________
Lie:_________________________
Sarah got a D in a surprise Maths test.
Hannah denied having let out the secret.

7. Secrets and lies Careful reading: Questions:
Why do you think Sarah and Hannah could
be good friends before ?
2. Why did Sarah tell Hannah that they
weren’t going to be friends any more?
3. What might have caused their friendship
to break?

8. Why do you think Sarah and Hannah could
be good friends before ?
They were like each other and had much in
common.

9. 2. Why did Sarah tell Hannah that they
weren’t going to be friends any more?
Because she thought Hannah had told
everyone how badly she had done in the
Maths test.

10. 3. What might have caused their friendship
to break?
Sarah didn’t trust her friend.
Hannah may have betrayed her friend.
Sarah and Hannah lacked communication.

11. Reading strategy: understanding feelings
Secrets and lies
Reading strategy: understanding feelings
A letter to a magazine advice columnist
usually includes:
Descriptions of problems
Descriptions of feelings
While reading such a letter, it’s important
to identify the writer’s feelings towards a
certain problem and then think about what
advice to give him/her.

12. Let’s take Sarah’s letter for example:

13. How Sarah felt: Why? betrayed ashamed upset angry
She thought her best friend Hannah
didn’t keep her secret.
ashamed
She scored the lowest mark in her
class.
She found a piece of paper on her
desk that said “stupid Sarah got a D”.
upset
angry
She thought Sarah didn’t keep
her word.

14. Practice of Reading Strategy:
Read A friendship in trouble, and try to
find out Andrew’s problem and how he
feels about it by filling in the blanks:
Andrew felt:
Why?
___________
They lost the game because of Matthew’s bad performance.
Matthew hasn’t spoken to him though they sit next to each other in class.
angry
guilty
He made some cruel remarks.
awkward
in a dilemma
His best friend Matthew has stopped talking
to him.

15. In your own words, tell each other
Pair work:
In your own words, tell each other
what Andrew’s problem is and what
caused his friendship with Matthew
in trouble.
Andrew blamed the losing of the match on Matthew’s
bad performance and they had a bitter quarrel with
each other. Now they aren’t talking to each other any
more and Matthew seems to want to make friends with
another boy. Andrew really shouldn’t have blamed
Matthew without thinking twice.

16. Group work: Problem solving (1)
Suppose you are the advice columnist,
what advice will you give Sarah and what
to Andrew?
Choose one of the topics and try to
think of as much advice as possible.

17. Finish Exercise E on page 5 and get
to know what advice it is that the
advice columnist actually gives
to Sarah and Matthew.

18. Conclusion: My advice to all of you on how to mend a friendship:
1. You have to talk to your friend. When
there is no one around, have an honest
talk.
2. If your friend doesn’t want to talk, you
could write a letter.
3. Always remember there are three
steps to being friends again:

19. Tell your friend how you’re feeling;
Say what your friend has done wrong,
and explain why you did this or that;
Remember that friendship is the most
important thing in your life.