1. 12.1 Emotional Development from 1-3
Chapter 12
12.1 Emotional Development from 1-3

2. Emotional Patterns During this time children are very moody!
There are many emotional ups and downs.
Go through periods of happiness, calmness, stability, and inner peace.

3. Emotional Patters
Throughout childhood, emotional development tends to go in cycles.
Toddlers tend to show their feelings by their facial expression and their actions.
Both smiles and tears are common

4. Eighteen Months Primarily self-centered
At this age parents and caregivers are beginning to teach children that they are not always going to get what they desire.
This is difficult and is a long-term lesson
Eighteen months is only the beginning of this.

5. Eighteen Months
Parents and caregivers verbal instructions are usually not very successful at this age.
Do opposite of what is requested
Favorite response “no” “give it to me”
Negativism- doing the opposite of what is asked
Caused by frustration sometimes

6. Eighteen Months Negativism is a normal stage of emotional development.
Instead of saying no all of the time move the things you are saying no to.
Their bodies can do more but their vocab is still short, resulting in frustration/anger
Realizes they are a separate person

7. Eighteen Months Distraction can be positive tool to use.
Example: Instead of saying “No, put that down” you could say “Hey, look over here, have you seen this book before?”
Also give children reasonable choices when possible
Banana or Pear?
Stick to 2 choices.

8. Eighteen Months Start to have temper tantrums
Sometimes happen over pointless things
These last until about age three or four

9. Two years
Are less at odds with the world. They can communicate and motor skills have improved.
Not as frustrated
Child is easier to reason with
Outgoing, friendly, less self-centered
Wait longer amounts of time for things to happen/ be done.

10. Two and one-half Years
Just as parents begin to adjust to a smoother, less intense toddler, the child enters a new stage.
Now the child is not so easily distracted
They are learning so much they are often overwhelmed
Their comprehension and desires exceed their physical abilities
Want to build tall towers and but can only make it a few blocs before they fall over.

11. Two and one-half Years Working hard at talking
They know what to say but they don’t always succeed in making themselves understand.
When parents just kind of “ignore” it and say “Uh Oh” or “yeah” children get even more frustrated
They thrive for independence and are sensitive about being “bossed” around.
They are stubborn, demanding, but then may become loveable and kind.

12. Two and one-half Years
The biggest characteristic about this age is that they want consistency; he or she wants the same routines, carried out in just the same way, day after day.
This makes the world less confusing.
This builds security and confidence.

13. Two and one-half Years They are part independent part dependent.
The best way for parents/caregivers to deal with this age is to use extreme patience and love.
This age needs flexible and adaptable limitations.

14. Three Years
Three year olds can do most everything so they do not get as frustrated.
Take directs from others with little of their previous resistance
Follow instructions and take pride in the tasks they can preform for others
Seek praise
Less violent temper tantrums
Talk, talk , talk!

15. Thee and One-Half
At three children are self-confident, now at 3½ they are suddenly insecure.
Fears are common
The dark, lions, mascots, Santa etc.
Thumb sucking, nail biting, nose picking
They want to control the environment “I am going to eat on the floor today”

16. Specific Emotions 2-3 year olds are very open with their emotions.
A three year old can express emotions in a more socially acceptable way.
Children’s emotions become more specific as they grow older.
3 year olds have
Anger
Fear
Jealousy
Affection
Sympathy

17. Anger
Temper tantrums are most common about 2-3 years, then they decline.
They are also linked with anger most of the time.
Outgoing, confident children tend to display anger more aggressively (hitting/kicking)
As time goes on physical attacks begin to be replaced by threatening, name-calling, pouting, or scolding.

18. Anger
As time goes on anger is more frequent in anxious, insecure children.
The ones who are lacking self-control.
Parents who do not keep a schedule tend to have a child who is more likely to experience anger.
Parents need to be aware of this and make sure the demands of the child and the parents are met. (maintaining a positive and safe environment)

19. Fear
There are different fears and different ages and this will be ever changing.
Some fears are useful, they keep children away from danger.
Thoughtless adults sometimes build fears to ensure obedience “don’t get off the side walk or the police will get you”.

20. Fear Adults often communicate their own fears to children.
If a parent is scared of dogs, their child will probably be scared of dogs even if they haven’t experienced it. Children can sense it.

21. Fear
Somewhere between the 1-4 birthdays many children suffer from separation anxiety.
This can be disturbing fro parents.
Parents should be carful to avoid communicating their own concerns with the child; it may be helpful for parents to recall that they have chosen a safe, secure caregiver or care center for their child.

22. Fear Some fears are brought about from experiences.
If they are scared of Santa and had a bad experience and dad grows a beard, a child may get scared.

23. How to handle fear 1-3 Avoid shaming
Encourage communication about the fear.
Offer honest, understandable explanations
Try to help separate reality from fantasy (nightmares)
How to control frightening situations.
Be supportive and understanding.

24. Jealousy Jealousy becomes recognizable sometime in the 2nd year.
Reaches its peak at 3.
At this age children may not recognize that parents have enough love for everyone.
Sibling rivalry- competition between brothers and/or sisters for their parents’ affection and attention.
Video

25. Jealousy
It happens mostly when there is a new baby and all of the attention is on the new baby and no longer on the older sibling.
1-2 year olds want the baby to be “taken back”
Older children start to act out in ways they never have before.
They may start acting like a baby again.

26. Jealousy
If parents act shocked or threatened not to love a toddler anymore, they will only make the problem worse.

27. Handling Jealousy Arrange a special alone time
Compliment the correct behavior whenever possible.
Point out the advantages of not being a baby
Give the older child extra love and attention
If a child is moving bedrooms do it months before the new child arrives
Prepare a child for a baby’s arrival
Ask the child to help with small tasks in caring for the new child.

28. Love and Affection It should be a strong bond but not smothering.
Children who rely on the relationship to much often have a hard time making other friends.
Other attachments, pets, siblings, friends, extended families

29. Sympathy Does not show sympathy until about 2.
A child must be able to relate to others.
A well-adjusted, happy child is more inclined to be sympathetic than a child whose relationships are less satisfactory.

30. Evaluating Emotional Adjustment
How can parents tell whether their child is developing well emotionally?
Parent child relationship
The relationships from the start set a pattern for the rest of a child’s life, with his or her spouse, family, children
The child seeks approval and praise from parents
Child turns t parents for comfort and help
A child tells parents about significant events so that they may share in the joy and sorrow
Child accepts limits and discipline without unusual resistance
Sibling relationships

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