1. ICR Lesson 4
9.ICR.1 Understand healthy and effective interpersonal communication and relationships
9.ICR. 1.5 Explain how power and control in relationships can contribute to aggression and violence

2. Statement of Objectives
Today we are going to examine and understand how power and control in a relationship can lead to aggression and violence

3. Review: Healthy vs. Unhealthy
I am going to read several relationship characteristics. You will each get a red and green slip.
If you think what I read is healthy, hold up GREEN
If you think what I read is unhealthy, hold up RED

4. Focus Activity Find a partner Decide who will be A and who will be B
Partner A is going to be the puppet first and Partner B will begin as the puppeteer
Imagine that there is an invisible string that connects from the center of partner B’s left palm to the center of partner A’s forehead
The string is approximately 6 inches
Do you understand the directions so far?

5. Focus Activity con’t.
Rules -Participation is encouraged. If at any point, you feel uncomfortable, you may pass. -Be aware of personal space and respect personal space of others -You are not allowed to talk -Take care of your own needs- participate to the extent you are able to…injuries ect.

6. Understand the rules? Review the activity then lets begin!
Reminders: -Partner B’s palm should match Partner A’s forehead. -Partner B should lead partner A around the room exploring all dimensions- both high and low

7. Which did you prefer? Being the puppet or puppeteer? Why?

8. Did you ever feel uncomfortable during this activity? Why?

9. Why did you participate, even after you began to feel uncomfortable?

10. Did you ask your partner to stop if they led you to do anything you weren’t comfortable doing?

11. Power How did it feel to have power in the first activity?
How did this activity relate to power and control in relationships?

12. 1 in 3 teenagers have experienced violence in a dating relationship
If the characteristics of an unhealthy relationship are easy to recognize, then why is it that one third of teenagers have experienced violence in a dating relationship?
How do you think power is established in a relationship?
How do you think a person would feel being in an unhealthy relationship?

13. Teen Dating Violence Fact Sheet
Read the worksheet independently both front and back
Write at the bottom 3 things you found interesting about the article.

14. Lindsay’s Story
As we read, use a highlighter to highlight the warning signs in the reading

15. What were the warning signs that showed this was an unhealthy relationship?

16. Did the victim try any strategies that helped him/her get out of the relationship? Who did they turn to for help and what happened?

17. If the victim did not get help, what strategies would you suggest that may have helped in this situation?

18. Read National Center for Victims of Crime: Dating Violence
Read to understand what one can do to help themselves or other victims of violence. Highlight the important parts of the article

19. Get Help Get help immediately
Talk to someone you trust- parent, guardian, teacher
If you choose to tell, know that some are mandated reporters. This means they are legally required to report neglect or abuse to someone else, like the police or child protective services.
Mandated reporters: teachers, counselors, doctors, social workers, coaches

20. Help yourself
When going out, think: -Where can you go for help? -Who can you call? -Who will help you? -How will you escape a violent situation?
Always let friends or family members know where you are going. Include when you’ll be back
Call 911 in case of an emergency
Memorize important phone numbers

21. Help someone else Tell the person you are worried Be a good listener
Offer your support
Ask how you can help
Encourage your friend to seek help

22. Independent Practice: Alternatives to Power and Control
For each example of power and control in relationships, use what you have learned this lesson and in this unit to write an action or alternative action that would be a more healthy behavior than trying to control their boyfriend/girlfriend.