1. Communication and Identity
The importance of others in shaping our self-image (or identity) is indispensable

2. We are Shaped by Others
If you grew up on a deserted island, how would you know:
How smart you were
How attractive you were
How tall/short you were
How thin/fat you were

3. Appraisals From Others Shape our Self-image
Even if we could look in a mirror, we still couldn’t evaluate ourselves without in-put from others

4. Characteristics of Self-concept
The self-concept is subjective
We tend to view ourselves more favorably than facts would merit
Sometimes we view ourselves more harshly than facts indicate
The self-concept resists change (cognitive conservation)

5. Culture and Identity Our sense of self is shaped by our culture
Individualistic and collectivistic cultures provide different windows for creating self-images
Strong “I” orientation individualistic cultures
Strong inter-dependence in collective cultures

6. Gender and Identity
From the earliest moments of life, being male or female shapes the way others communicate with us
Girls are cute or beautiful, boys are handsome and strong
Boys are expected to be masculine, girls feminine
Girls are sweet, boys are tough

7. Changing your Self-concept
Have a realistic perception of yourself
Have realistic expectations
Have the will to change
Have the skill to change

8. Public and Private Self
We have several “selves” that are a reflection of our identity
We have a Public Self (Presenting self)
We have a Private self (Perceived self)
These different “selves” are often referred to as our “FACE”
What type of “Face” are you presenting?