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Discipline Methods to Build Self-Esteem
Issues: Spanking, Removing the “NO”, Education, Child Abuse and The Role of Dad
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Remove the “NO” From the Following Instructions:
1. Don’t run with scissors in your hand. 2. Don’t forget your lunch. 3. Don’t jump in the house. 4. Don’t hit her again. 5. Don’s throw your book on the floor. 6. Don’t write on the wall with crayons. 7. Don’t play that ugly music. 8. Don’t act like a baby. 9. Don’t eat like a sloppy pig! 10. Don’t stay up so late!
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Building Self-Concept in Kids
How I see myself Self-Esteem: How I feel about how I see myself
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A baby is born with a 100% self esteem!!!
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What happens to that self-esteem as the child grows older????????
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Self Concept is the picture you have of yourself.
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Where does our self-concept come from????
How others treat us. Our accomplishments. It mostly comes from what we THINK the important people in our lives think of us. (we allow this to guide our behavior--do not label!)
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YOUR Job as a Parent…. Provide your child with a healthy identity during his formative years in the home.
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Components that can damage self-esteem.
Respect/love--disappointment, disinterest of parents. Older siblings can crush confidence.
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…Can damage self-esteem
Early social blunders. Financial hardship or deprivation.
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…Can damage self-esteem
Undeveloped social skills or embarrassing family characteristics.
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Examine Your Values... Parental Insensitivity
Fatigue and Time Pressure Guilt Rivals for Love
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Teach your child a NO-KNOCK policy.
No one would notice if you keep your mouth shut!!!
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Help Your Child To Compensate
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Help Your Child to Compete
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Fit time in schedule for your child
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Avoid over protection and dependency.
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Check out the pages in your packet on ways to say “Very Good!”
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Observing Your Children
Reasons for observing kids: To understand how they think, feel, behave and grow To get to know a child better To compare developmentally with kids at same age To identify special needs To assess teaching skills To make an effort to know the child
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Who’s Raising Your Child?
What role do the following play in raising your child: Television/Music/Media Parent/Family Teachers/Religion
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REASONS FOR NOT SPANKING CHILDREN
Doesn’t stop the unwanted behavior. It leads to fear and avoidance. The child becomes sneaky. You become a model for aggression. The spanking doesn’t stop when the lesson is learned; it stops when the spanker is tired. It teaches that might makes right. It is a violation of the child’s rights. If the same action was taken against an adult, you could be charged with assault and battery.
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MORE REASONS TO NOT SPANK CHILDREN
It fails to teach appropriate behavior. The child wants to strike back. “Not spanking” forces one to find other alternatives. As the child grows older, the spanking becomes more severe. Child does not learn inner control. Can lead to child abuse. (Utah Chapter, National Committed to Prevent Child Abuse)
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Schooling/education Acknowledge effort of child
Encourage childs strengths- even if not related to school Have realistic expectations Accept mistakes Help your child- show interest Help child identify own goals- not yours!
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Toys Avoid small parts on toys
Watch out for balloons, bags, and plastics Watch for age limitations Make sure toy is used for its purpose Safety toys - helmets, pads, etc. Agree with home values
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“Dads” Dads are just as important as moms
Dad has lots of jobs- one which includes telling his kids he loves them! Spend time with kids, listen to them Be a positive role model Develop relationships with daughters as well as sons.
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What you can do Sympathize with parent
Divert the angry attention away from child Compliment or praise Offer sympathy and help Alert the store manager Quietly stand guard
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Parenting The MOST important job in a child’s life:
Take time out for yourself Read a book Go on a walk Form a parent group Take classes Be human and allow children to be human
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Child Abuse Physical Emotional/Mental Sexual
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