3. Helping
Symmes/D’Arcy

4. Partner #1

5. Recommend a great place for your partner to visit over Summer Break.

6. What studying strategy would you highly recommend to your partner that you have been using recently and think they will love?

7. How would you help someone who needs to make a change in how they are treating you?Or
Your partner needs to make a change in their in class behaviour, how would you help them?

8. SIMPLE OR COMPLEX?
VACATION
STUDYING
BEHAVIOUR

9. What complicates the task of helping?
Write down as many ideas as you can. Then share with group (either sort into categories or popcorn out ideas)

10. Success Criteria
You have provided a situation where you experienced difficulty helping someone.
You have explained why this occurred and made a connection to the helping principals.

12. Partner #2

13. Most people don’t know what it looks like when they do what they do.
Simple Truth #1
Most people don’t know what it looks like when they do what they do.

14. CHANGE
A clear picture of the current situation is very difficult to gather
Many people don’t see the need for change
We don’t know what it looks like to do what we do.

15. PARTNER TALK
Do you think most people have a good grasp of their current realities in health, school, relationships, etc?

16. People take it personally when we talk about their identity.
Simple Truth #2
People take it personally when we talk about their identity.

18. Identity “The story we tell ourselves about who we are.”
Receiving feedback can be difficult
Have you ever experienced an interaction like this?

19. Partner #3

20. When we do the thinking for other people, they resist.
Simple Truth #3
When we do the thinking for other people, they resist.

21. Thinking
Can you think of a time when you set out to do help someone or received help and you resisted?
What roadblocks prevented you from achieving the goal?
What could have helped you and how?
If professionals are not involved in the thinking, do they commit to change initiatives?

22. How can you find more time to study?
What is on your mind ?
What is the REAL challenge 4 U?
And what else?
What to do you want?

23. If people perceive us as putting ourselves “one-up”, they resist.
Simple Truth #4
If people perceive us as putting ourselves “one-up”, they resist.

24. Status
When being helped, people question, “Am I getting the status I think I deserve?”
In your experience, how is status at play in helping relationships?

25. Do you take advice well from people who place themselves above you?

27. Simple Truth #5
Unless people care about a goal, they aren’t likely to achieve the goal.
Need to find something that aligns with their purpose (autonomy, relationship, competence)
In your experience, do people implement goals when they can’t see a good reason to implement them?

28. Motivation

29. Is it important to “give-a-care” when setting your goals?

30. Partner Discussion
Think of an example of a time when you tried to help someone but it was not well received.
Did any of these factors come into play?
In what ways does your experience suggest the simple truths of helping do and do not reflect your truths.

31. Reflection
Do you agree that the 5 simple truths are important in helping others effectively?
Did any of these factors come into play?
In what ways does your experience suggest the simple truths of helping do and do not reflect your truths.