1. Building a Healthy Home Presented by: (add presenter’s name here)
Written by Claudio and Pamela Consuegra
Department of Family Ministries
North American Division,
Columbia, Maryland, USA

2. “This man began to build and was
For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it lest, after he has laid the foundation, and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying,
“This man began to build and was
not able to finish.”
Luke 14:28-30 (LBLA)
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5. SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION
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6. A Spiritual Family Worships Together
I. Spiritual Foundation
A Spiritual Family Worships Together
A Spiritual Family Honors God's Word and Applies it in Their Home.
Spiritual Families Make Prayer a Daily Part of Their Home Life.
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7. SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION
COMMITMENT
TRUST
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8. II. Trust & Commitment
“This commitment cannot be a one-time affirmation, for buried within each of us is the deep psychological need for constant reassurance, to know where we stand with our partner in the relationship of marriage. It is the awareness that we are loved and accepted that builds our own sense of self-esteem and self-acceptance and makes it possible to give and express love in return.”
Floyd Harriet Thatcher, The Long-term Marriage
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9. Historical Honesty Emotional Honesty Present Honesty Future Honesty
II. Trust & Commitment
Historical Honesty
Emotional Honesty
Present Honesty
Future Honesty
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10. PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE
SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION
COMMITMENT
TRUST
PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE
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11. 1. Marry a Believer III. Preparing for Marriage
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness?
And what communion hath light with darkness?
2 Corinthians 6:14 (NKJV)
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12. 2. Inspect the Baggage III. Preparing for Marriage
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13. III. Preparing for Marriage
3. Settle the “Leave and Cleave” Issue
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
Genesis 2:24 (NKJV)
Matthew 19:4
Mark 10:7
Ephesians 5:31
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14. III. Preparing for Marriage
3. Settle the “Leave and Cleave” Issue
First, Both Partners must Be Willing to Leave
Severing the cord of dependency
Severing the cord of allegiance.
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15. III. Preparing for Marriage
3. Settle the “Leave and Cleave” Issue
Second, Both Partners must Cleave to Each Other
Severing the cord of dependency
Severing the cord of allegiance.
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16. 4. Take Your Time III. Preparing for Marriage
A. Get to Know the Other Person’s Family.
B. Get to Know as Much as Possible about him/her.
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17. 5. Establish a “Covenant” Marriage.
III. Preparing for Marriage
5. Establish a “Covenant” Marriage.
Think about what a covenant, a promise, or a vow means to God.
Read the following texts:
Deuteronomy 23:21, 23
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18. 6. Seek Biblically-based Premarital Counseling
III. Preparing for Marriage
6. Seek Biblically-based Premarital Counseling
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19. PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE
SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION
COMMITMENT
TRUST
PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE
NOURISHING THE FAMILY
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20. Avenues of Communication
IV. Nourishing The Family
Avenues of Communication
1. Verbal communication.   
2. Nonverbal body language
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21. Four types of listeners
IV. Nourishing The Family
Four types of listeners
The Judge
The Counselor
The Inquisitor
The Good Listener
Be quick to listen , and slow to speak , slow to anger.
James 1:19
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22. PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE NOURISHING THE FAMILY STRENGTHEN-ING INTIMACY
SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION
COMMITMENT
TRUST
PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE
NOURISHING THE FAMILY
STRENGTHEN-ING INTIMACY
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23. V. Strengthening Intimacy
The Five Basic Emotional Needs of Women
1. Affection
2. Conversation
3. Honesty
4. Financial Stability
5. Commitment
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24. The Five Basic Needs of Men
V. Strengthening Intimacy
The Five Basic Needs of Men
1. Sexual Fulfillment
2. A Man Needs Admiration and Respect
3. A Man Needs a Peaceful Home
4. A Man Needs a Wife Who Cares about Herself
5. A Man Needs a Wife Who Will Be His Playmate
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25. V. Strengthening Intimacy
Parents Meet the Needs of Their Children
1. Children Need Unconditional Love
2. Children Need to Be Trained
3. Children Need to Be Nurtured
4. Children Need Genuine, Deserved Praise
5. Children Need Parents Who Are in Control
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26. PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE NOURISHING THE FAMILY STRENGTHEN-ING INTIMACY
SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION
COMMITMENT
TRUST
PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE
NOURISHING THE FAMILY
STRENGTHEN-ING INTIMACY
PROTECTING INTIMACY
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27. Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.
VI. Protecting Intimacy
Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.
Ephesians 4:26
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28. Four possible responses to conflict:
VI. Protecting Intimacy
Four possible responses to conflict:
1. I win; you lose.
2. You win; I lose.
3. We both lose, and no one wins.
4. Everyone wins, and no one loses
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29. VI. Protecting Intimacy
Principles Of Constructive Conflict Resolution
Practice the prevention rule
“The beginning of strife is like the letting of water. Stop the flow before it starts. Quit before the quarrel breaks out.”
Proverbs 17:14
2. Look for areas where you are to blame
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30. Ask Yourself: VI. Protecting Intimacy
Is it a Worthy Battle? Proverb 19:11
Am I Wrong?
Should I React or Respond?
What Difference Is this Going to Make in My Life in Three Days? What Impact Will it Have in Five Years?
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31. Learn to Forgive VI. Protecting Intimacy
If you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses Matthew 6:15
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32. VI. Protecting Intimacy
1. Being aware of what someone has done and still forgiving them
2. Choosing to keep no record of wrong
3. Refusing to punish
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33. 4. Not telling what they did 5. Being merciful
VI. Protecting Intimacy
4. Not telling what they did
5. Being merciful
6. Forgiveness involves letting go
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34. VI. Protecting Intimacy
SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION
COMMITMENT
TRUST
PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE
NOURISHING THE FAMILY
STRENGTHEN-ING INTIMACY
PROTECTING INTIMACY
A FUTURE TOGETHER
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35. VII. A Future Together
1. Traditions Bring a Family Together, Causing the Members to Know One Another Better
2. Traditions Create Positive Memories Which Can Provide Encouragement and Stability   
3. Traditions Are Cherished and Passed along to Future Generations
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36. PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE NOURISHING YOUR FAMILY STRENGTHEN-ING INTIMACY
SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION
COMMITMENT
TRUST
PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE
NOURISHING YOUR FAMILY
STRENGTHEN-ING INTIMACY
PROTECTING INTIMACY
A FUTURE TOGETHER
PRAYER
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37. Prayer
“His offering is complete, and as our Intercessor He executes His self-appointed work, holding before God the censer containing His own spotless merits and the prayers, confessions, and thanksgiving of His people. Perfumed with the fragrance of His righteousness, these ascend to God as a sweet savor. The offering is wholly acceptable, and pardon covers
all transgression.”
Ellen G. White, Christ Object Lessons, 121
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