1. Agenda To Get: To Do: Handouts from the back shelf
Notes from the last two classes
Trophy Wife Reading
To Do:
2 part opener – use previous notes to ID behaviors
Guided Notes: Loving and Liking
Trophy Wife Reading w/ questions (participation points)
Discuss Ideal Partner drawings from last class
Homework Assignment: Increasing Intimacy

2. Openers – 2 Parts
You will need your guided notes from the past to class to reference to help you identify possible answers to the following videos.

3. Interpersonal Attraction Flight of the Concords – The Most Beautiful Girl
Why is the girl he is singing about so attractive?
(where is she and what is the term to describe this type of attraction?)
2. He attributes many other qualities to her that might not necessarily be true; what is this called?

4. Part 2 Nicole Kidman and Jimmy Fallon
Determine if these two individuals STILL like each other 8 years after the only time they “dated.”
1. What sort of distance do they use?
2. What are their proxemics?
3. What are their CURRENT situational demands?
4. What is the level of self-disclosure?
5. What is the likelihood of homogamy between them as a possible couple?

5. Loving and Liking – Dating, Rating, Mating
Romantic love – marked by high levels of interpersonal attraction and emotional arousal
Sexual desire is regarded as an important part of romantic attraction – especially in Western cultures
Liking – affection without passion or deep commitment (just friends…)
Culturally, women tend to express feelings of love, towards friends, more than men
Mutual absorption in romantic love – lovers attend almost exclusively to on another
Idealization maintains absorption – blinded to partners faults but also helps each partner create the relationship they wish for

6. Love and Attachment
Roots of romantic relationships may lie in childhood (but not in a Freudian way…)
Early attachments to caregivers can have a lasting impact on how we relate to others
Studies of dating couples have identified secure, avoidant, and ambivalent attachment patterns similar to early child development
Nationally
59% of adults have secure attachment
25% avoidant
11% anxious attachment
People use early attachment experiences to build mental models about affectionate relationships
Quality of childhood bonds to parents or other caregivers may hold a key to understanding how we approach romantic relationships.

7. Ambivalent Attachment
Secure Attachment
stable and positive emotional bond
marked by caring, intimacy, supportiveness, and understanding
Find it easy to get close to others
No fear of abandonment or depending on others
Avoidant Attachment
Reflects a fear of intimacy and tendency to resist commitment to others
Pulls back when things don’t go well in a relationship
Suspicious, aloof, and skeptical about love
Find it hard to completely trust and depend on others
Get nervous when anyone gets too close emotionally
Tend to avoid intimacy
Ambivalent Attachment
Mixed emotions about relationships
Conflicting feelings of affection, anger, emotional turmoil, physical attraction, and doubt leave them in an unsettled, ambivalent state (whatever...)

8. Evolution and Mate Selection
Evolutionary Psychology – study of the evolutionary origins of human behavior patters
Imprint left on men and women that possibly influences concepts of sexual attraction to infidelity, jealousy and divorce
Evolved behavior patterns intuitively guide partner choices

9. Why? – related to reproductive challenges faced by men and women
Interested in casual sex
Prefer more younger/physically attractive partners
Display jealousy over real/imagined physical infidelity rather than emotional infidelity
Women
Prefer slightly older partners who appear industrious, higher status or economically successful
More upset by emotional infidelities rather than physical
Why? – related to reproductive challenges faced by men and women
Women invest more time and energy into the reproductive process and nurturing
Evolved an interest in whether partners would stick around and if they had the resources to provide for family
Reproductive success for men depends wholly on the fertility of the woman
Evolved an interest health, youth and beauty
Trophy Wives?!

10. Trophy Wife – is it really a thing
Trophy Wife – is it really a thing? Read and summarize the provided article.

11. “From a biological perspective, men do not benefit from investing resources in children they did not sire”
This could be a possible reason men get more angered over physical, rather than emotional, cheating.
Overall, potential mates are rated as attractive, by prospective partners, if they are kind, secure, intelligent and supportive.
What does the concept of a trophy wife NOT take into account?

12. Trophy Wives Reading
The idea of a trophy wife is an old-fashioned notion based on what?
What are two mechanisms that explain the pairing process of people?
What is “matching?”
What is “exchange?”
What does it mean that socioeconomic status and beauty are correlated?
What have most studies ignored in understand the concept of trophy wives?
What does gender-symmetric mean? Is there a modern slang term for this?
Assuming that the importance of beauty and status is ______________ may cause researchers to overlook men’s _____________________ and women’s ______________ _______________ and thus to misidentify matching as exchange.

13. How has Trump promoted the idea of Evolutionary Psychology?
Married three times, each to a younger woman
Has five children, 3 from his first wife, and one each from his subsequent wives. (he is 72 and currently has a 12 year old son with)
What about Bob Marley?
have

14. Increasing Intimacy https://youtu.be/ONYlKmdylXg Your homework:
Go home this weekend and find someone you have a strong interpersonal connection with.
Stare into their eyes for 4 minutes without talking.
Write one paragraph on how it felt and what you thought about while doing it and how you felt about the person after the 4 minutes.

15. Social Isolation Isolation - Mind Field (Ep 1)