1. GOD’S PRINCIPLES FOR PARENTING
DEUTERONOMY 6:4-9,20-25

2. Goal Determines Method
Parenting goal is God’s goal Heb. 12:7-11
Spiritual maturity (choosing to do right)
From self-will to self-control Prov. 11:6
From foolishness to wisdom Prov. 22:15
From irresponsible to responsible Ezekiel 18:20
What is the method to achieve goal of a responsible child who chooses to live godly, submitting to God’s will?

3. Goal Determines Method
We must train the will of the child
How did Paul persuade others? 2 Tim. 2:24
Focus on internal not external
Coercion, bribery, may work short-term
Strong-willed or self-willed? Heb. 5:12-14
How actions & words affect child’s will? Prov. 22:6
Instruction

4. Goal Determines Method
We must train the will of the child
How did Paul persuade others? 2 Tim. 2:24
Focus on internal not external
Coercion, bribery, may work short-term
Strong-willed or self-willed? Heb. 5:12-14
How actions & words affect child’s will? Prov. 22:6
InstructionPractice

5. Goal Determines Method
We must train the will of the child
How did Paul persuade others? 2 Tim. 2:24
Focus on internal not external
Coercion, bribery, may work short-term
Strong-willed or self-willed? Heb. 5:12-14
How actions & words affect child’s will? Prov. 22:6
InstructionPracticeConfirmation

6. The Training Process Control when self-control isn’t learned yet
Convince share convictions with child
Constrain make opportunity to practice instruction; make sure of follow-through
Confirm reinforce right decisions (praise & reward); give more opportunities to grow OR
Correct wrong decisions by rebuke, allowing consequences, or punishment

7. Essential Elements for Biblical Training
Time Deut. 6:6-9
Word of God Dt. 6:20-25
Good example of obedience Dt. 6:17-18
Diligence Dt. 6:7 teach up = quality time
Consistency between words & deeds
Consistency between words & reality 1Thess. 2:5
Your child’s heart Prov. 23:26

8. How to Get the Child to Give His Heart Prov. 23:26
Time Dt. 6:6-9 he knows your priorities
Dt. 6:7 show they are worth effort
Actions speak louder than words
Heart is the person Prov. 23:7; 4:23
Problems are heart problems Matt. 15:18
Competition for the heart 1 Peter 2:11
God made the heart to be given
God, parents, wife, husband, family Malachi 4:6; Lk 1:16-17; Matt. 3:2; Ac. 2:38