1. Encourage Resilience:
Encourage Resilience:
How to Guide Your Child Through Ups and Downs on the Journey
to Success!
Deborah Giboa, MD

2. hap·pi· ness: noun good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy
INGREDIENTS:
Confidence
Competence
Relationships

3. RESPECT Tone of voice. Titles of respect. Eye contact Body Language
Secret Code
Negotiating
Parental privacy
3 sentences; amazing results!

4. RESPONSIBILITY Chores Homework Practice Community service
One work ethic; sentences

5. RESILIENCE “I’ll be interested to see what you do!” Mistakes Praise
Life lessons
Choices
Risk-taking
Resources!
“I’ll be interested to see what you do!”

6. RESILIENCE CHALLENGES
Mistakes
Accidents
Pain
Social consequences
Judgment
11:00 News…

7. CULTURE OF “SUCCESSFUL” FAMILIES
Myth vs
Truth

8. SOURCE: Journal of Child and Family Studies, Feb 2013

9. THE COST
“Students who reported having over-controlling parents reported significantly higher levels of depression and less satisfaction with life. Furthermore, the negative effects of helicopter parenting on college students’ well-being were largely explained by the perceived violation of students’ basic psychological needs for autonomy and competence.”

10. WHAT WOULD BE BETTER? Doing = learning. Doing builds resilience!
Life skills
Relationship skills
Problem-solving!
Look for chances to take one step back.

11. HOW DOES FAILURE HELP? independence → confidence Leads to competence
Builds relationship
Teaches resilience. 11

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