1. Bullying Prevention 101 Maile Kapuniai, MSCP
School Counselor & Student Services Coordinator
Ha`aheo Elementary School
September 17, 2015

2. Parents Complete True/False Questions

3. Answers to T/F Questions

4. Hawaii State Statutes Definition
“Bullying” means any written, verbal, graphic, or physical act that a student or group of students exhibits toward other particular student(s) and the behavior causes mental or physical harm to the other student(s); and is sufficiently severe, persistent, or pervasive that it creates an intimidating, threatening, or abusive educational environment for the other student(s).

5. Bullying Behavior
Any act that is done on purpose, repeatedly, and that hurts another person's feelings or body. Bullying Behavior is also usually accompanied by a power imbalance.
Bullying behavior can be in the forms of: Verbal, non-verbal, physical, social exclusion, and cyber (using technology).

6. Bullying is not...
Two siblings share a bedroom and do not agree on what color to paint the walls
Two strangers clash over a place in a movie line
Neighbors disagree about who should clean up debris after a storm
Two friends want to wear the same outfit to a party
Children quarrel over who gets to go first
Adults can’t agree on how to spend a weekend.
Teenagers dispute who should babysit on a Saturday night.
Co-workers argue over how a job should be done.
A child telling another child that he/she is going to tell the teacher about inappropriate behavior.
Mutual rough play

7. Signs a Child is Being Bullied
Look for changes in the child. However, be aware that not all children who are bullied exhibit warning signs.
Unexplainable injuries
Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry
Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness
Changes in eating habits, like suddenly skipping meals or binge eating. Kids may come home from school hungry because they did not eat lunch.
Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares
Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork, or not wanting to go to school
Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations
Feelings of helplessness or decreased self esteem
Self-destructive behaviors such as running away from home, harming themselves, or talking about suicide

8. Students who may be Targeted
Students who are targeted by other students who bully will often have some of the following qualities:
They are alone and have difficulty making friends.
They may get angry or sad easily.
They may be new to school.
They may have a physical or mental disability.
It is important for any child who is bullied to know that it is NEVER their fault.

9. Signs a Child is Bullying others
Get into physical or verbal fights
Have friends who bully others
Are increasingly aggressive
Get sent to the principal’s office or to detention frequently
Have unexplained extra money or new belongings
Blame others for their problems
Don’t accept responsibility for their actions
Are competitive and worry about their reputation or popularity

10. Bystander Behavior
Any person that sees or knows about someone being bullied. A bystander can either do something to help the target or do nothing at all. It takes courage to help someone. Often times, students who see others being bullied are also afraid of being bullied, so they don't do anything. Or they may think that they will be called a "tattle tale."

11. Reporting
Be supportive and gather information about the bullying. Listen carefully to what your child tells you about the bullying. Do not encourage physical retaliation. For example: Do not say, "Just hit them back."
Contact your child's teacher, school counselor or principal at the school to report the incident(s). Emphasize you want to work with the staff at school in finding a solution. Reporting may be done verbally or by phone or

12. Prevention for families

13. Families can Communicate
Talk with and listen to your children every day.
Show you care.
Ask questions about their school day, including experiences on the way to and from school, lunch, and recess.
Ask about their friends.
Observe your children’s emotional state as changes in behavior, appetite, and sleep patterns may be a sign of anxiety or discomfort.

14. Families can teach and model
Instill in your children the values of respect, responsibility, and resiliency to prevent bullying.
Create healthy anti-bullying habits, coaching your children on both what not to do (e.g., push, tease, be mean to others) as well as what to do (e.g., be kind, empathize, take turns, be respectful).
Explain to your child about what to do if someone is mean to him/her or to another student. Tell the bully to stop, then walk away and report it to an adult.
Be a good example and model for your children. Remember, anytime you speak to another person in a mean or abusive way, you are teaching your children that bullying is okay.

15. Parent Resources Chapter 19 : Bullying definitions haaheo.org
Grades 2-6 school planner insert
Hawaiipublicschools.org
Stopbullying.gov
Cyberbullying.org
commonsensemedia.org