1. Human Behavior Relationships
Relationship Wheel
Human Behavior
Relationships

2. The Wheel
Building and developing a relationship does not happen automatically when two people meet.
The relationship grows and flourishes as the people come together and relate to each other.
Thus building a relationship with another person is basically the process of developing feelings and interactions between the two of you.

3. The Wheel
Contains four spokes which represent the four steps of relationship building.
Rapport
Self-revelation
Mutual dependency
Need fulfillment
Take the following notes inside each spoke…

4. Rapport Feeling you get when you are at ease with another person
Good rapport leads to more interactions
Poor rapport makes it unlikely that you will want to continue the relationship

5. Self-Revelation
As you build rapport you open up to that person and tell more about yourself…called self-revelation
Revealing feelings, experience, and attitudes

6. Mutual dependency You learn each other’s habits
You learn to depend on the other person to talk and laugh with, go places with or rely on

7. Needs fulfillment
You begin to get respect, confidence and love or affection from the relationship
If you both fulfill each others needs the relationship grows

8. Brainstorm
List of all the possible personal needs that you think could be met through relationships with others…

9. Going backwards
The wheel can also move in the opposite direction, causing the destruction of the relationship
Sometimes the rapport you feel with someone leads to self-revelation that causes arguments or bad feelings. This is likely to cause less self- revelation. In turn, you rapport will decrease and fewer of your needs will be met.

10. Human Behavior Relationships
Intimacy Ladder
Human Behavior
Relationships

11. Draw the ladder
Draw the ladder on the back of your page

12. Intimacy ladder
People climb the ladder as they build relationships with others. Each rung on the ladder describes one way of being close, or intimate, with another person.

13. Intellectual intimacy
Conversation, share ideas and thoughts
Keep it non-personal

14. Physical Intimacy
Comfortable with closeness and may touch another person
Hugs, holding hands, etc. (doesnt have to be sexual)

15. Emotional Intimacy To be completely natural and show feelings
Get rid of defenses
Receive understanding, affection and support from each other
Trust each other and share most private feelings and ideas

16. Three Kinds of Love
Romantic
Nurturing
Addictive/Possessive