1. Birth to Breakup
Brian Balke, C.Ht.

2. Can’t We All Just Get Along?

3. Humour Me for a Minute… Phlegmatic / Watery / Acquisitive
Choleric / Fiery / Dominant
Sanguine / Airy / Supportive
Melancholic / Earthy / Avoidant

4. Give Me a Sign…
Zodiac
Seasonal gestation
Astrology

5. Do They Have an App for That?
Meyers-Briggs Personality Profile
How we think and interact
Trait Pairs
Extraversion – Introversion
Sensing – Intuition
Thinking – Feeling
Judging – Perceiving
16 possible combinations
NEO PI-R – 5 traits x 6 facets

6. Behave Yourself

7. Einstein was a German, Jewish genius.
Life Uses Energy
Who Am I? (How do I get energy?)
Aspects
Talents
Culture
Society
Roles
Long-Term, Durable
Negotiable
Einstein was a German, Jewish genius.
How Am I? (Where do I apply energy?)
Aspects
Mental (alert/sleepy)
Physical (hungry/sated)
Emotions (happy/sad)
Sensations (hot/cold)
Short-Term, Tendencies
Fundamental
I am a happy drunk.

8. Behavior
“How I Am” expressed as “Who I Am”

9. “I think, therefore I am.”
Rene Descartes
But what happens before “I think?”
We know “How I am” before “Who I am.”

10. Toddler Adventurer Protector Balance Parents Thinking Mind Knowns
Euphoria
Fear
Survival Instinct
Fight/Flight

11. Child Adventurer Protector Critical Mind Balance Conscious (12%)
Thinking Mind
Critical Mind
Balance
Knowns
Adventurer
Euphoria
Fear
Protector
Survival Instinct
Fight/Flight
Subconscious (88%)

12. Adventurers are Made by Protectors
Protectors are Made by Adventurers
The world is a safe place. “I can do it myself.”
The world is a scary place.
“I’m bored.” … “Not again!”

13. Break or Make

14. Complementary Antagonistic Adventurers Protectors Act Plan
Speak elaborately
Learn literally
Outgoing
Family
Crave attention
Walk off the end of the pier
Gunney-sackers
Emotionally brittle
Crushed by rejection
Destructive
Protectors
Plan
Learn by inference
Speak directly
Reserved
Work
Conserve options
Look twice before crossing
Clam Stew
Physically reticent
Haunted by guilt
Vicious
Antagonistic

15. Etiquette, Schmetiquette
Adventurer
Protector
“Where did you get that? Do you mind if I tell Miss A?”
“You look gorgeous! Eat your heart out, Miss P!”
“What’s your favorite story? Can I tell you mine?”
“Everyone follow Kid A!”

16. For the Protector
Your adventurer is far more committed to the relationship than you are.
You know them better than they know themselves – don’t abuse that power.
Come forward every now and then.
If you have to leave:
Don’t beat them down.
Prepare a safe time of transition.
Eventually you’ll decide to just be alone.

17. For the Adventurer Your protector loves you more than you love them.
They can commit their loyalties to more than one cause.
Give them some space – and use it as an opportunity to demonstrate that others appreciate you.
Use them to build habits for self-care.
If you have to leave:
Remember to take your heart back.
Leave them some options.
Get help with moving on.

18. Making the Best of It A Little Stress Never Killed Anybody
Buy the Symptoms
You are both “normal”
Work to the middle
Declare and manage terms
A Little Stress Never Killed Anybody
Variety is the Spice of Life