1. Are you ready to play?
15min and homework. Remember earlier on this lesson, I mentioned you’ll have a chance to see what your general knowledge is like when it comes to sex and sexuality. And see what kind of advice you would give to your friends. This quiz is like a game, you can play it over and over again to try and improve your score. You’ll be competing against your classmates so goodl luck! Remember if there is something you would like more info on, put it in a letter and drop it in the mailbox in class and we’ll address the issue in general.

2. Grd 8: Development of Self in Society Term 1 Lesson 3- Problem solving some tough situations
Max: 5min. Welcome back class! So, how did you find the quiz you finiished off for homeowork? Did you notice how much we still need to learn to make sure we can give correct advice to our friends. Today, we’re going to focus on developing some skills when it come to handling some difficult situations.
But first, we’re going to start off today by looking at some letter from our mailbox. I’m going to read the letter and the reply. Feel free to add comments as we go along. (Only if relevant)

3. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cUd8SvDjMM 10min Watch clip: 1min
Ask the class for feedback on their own experience of saying no to friends. Do they find it easy to do or difficult?
Ask them how they would say no in the following scenarios :
If your friend asks you to sleep over so you can go to a party because they know your mom doesnt allow you to go out to clubs.
Your older boyfriend you really like asked you to send a naked pic of yourself.
Your moms friend keeps hugging you and it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Your best friend, wants you to go with her to a party where you know shes going to get drunk.
An older guy started following you on instagram and wants to meet you.
Allow time for discussion and feedback on each scenario. Then take them to HOW to say no and mean it.

4. Know your tools...
Imagine the situation where an electrician was called out to a challenging job out of the city. It was so early in the morning when he left for work, he grabbed his tool belt in the dark and only noticed when he arrived at the job that he had taken his daughters tool belt. She was a beautician. He decided to go in and do the job anyway. Soon he discovered a huge problem. Even though he had the knowledge to fix the problem, he had the wrong tools. He would have to come back with the righ tools.
At this stage of your life, you are a teenager with a toolbelt with some tools. You’ve brought these tools up from primary school and now you find they dont work so well in high school situations. Today, we’re going to give you some new tools to help you say NO when under hectic peer pressure.

5. How to say no and mean it? ASK!
A- Ask yourself questions like: Is this against my beliefs, the law, parents rules? Can this be harmful to me or others? Will I regret doing this later? How will my friends & family feel when they find out?
S- Say NO to negative pressures- something like (No- I have thought about what you have asked and I dont want to do it.
K- Know positive options- something like” Id rather listen to music.
Here are your first set of tools:
Teach them the acronym ASK-
A- Ask yourself questions like: Is this against my beliefs, the law, parents rules? Can this be harmful to me or others? Will I regret doing this later? How will my friends & family feel when they find out?
S- Say NO to negative pressures- something like (No- I have thought about what you have asked and I dont want to do it.
K- Know positive options- something like” Id rather listen to music.
Ask learners to write this into their notebooks. They will apply this acranym later to scenarios.

6. How to solve a problem
Dont make the decision when you feel emotional. Wait!
Define the problem
What are the possible solutions?
What are the consequences of each solution?
Choose a suitable solution
DO IT!Implement your chosen solution
Evaluate later if the problem was solved.
15min:
Your next set of tools will help you to solve aproblem effectively. Take careful note of each point, write it down in your notes to use later.

7. 10-15min :There are 6 case studies available on the sheet: Solve it
10-15min :There are 6 case studies available on the sheet: Solve it! Give each group a different case study and ask them to use the tools you have given them to provide the best solution to the problem.
Ask the class to hand in their solution so you could put it up on the wall for them to look at later in class.

8. As we come to the end of our discussions on sex and sexuality just remember..
Know who you are and build self-esteem- look at list- add to it

9. Know yourself and your boundaries and you will make the right choice under pressure!
Over the next few years, you will often find your own identitiy changing. Your social groups, body, values will change. Remember that even though all these things change your boundaries are always determined by you.

10. HOW TO GROW YOUR SELF-CONCEPT...
5min (slide 7-9) Take a look at this list and choose 3 things you would like to try. Can you think of some other suggestions you could try
Set solid boundaries for yourself!

11.
Short video inspirational- If you are running low on time rather skip this cliip and share homework with the class.

12. Setting Healthy Boundaries:
Did you have any of the following:
Setting Healthy Boundaries:
Know yourself and develop a healthy self-esteem
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10min or homework, rememeber our discussion last lesson? Take some time now to finish off your list of boundaries. Remember, healthy boundaries protect you from making BAD decissions when it comes to SEX, peer pressure and life in general.
Ask yourself questions like:
What do I believe?
How far will i go with my boyfriend, girlfriend when it comes to sex? Would I rather wait till marriage?
How do I feel about alcohol?
Is this against my beliefs, the law, parents rules? Can this be harmful to me or others? Will I regret doing this later? How will my friends & family feel when they find out?

13. ALWAYS shows respect for boundaries.
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