1. Be an Upstander: What can ONE person do to Help?
RVRHS School Safety Team
HIB Presentation

2. The Bystander Revolution

3. What is a bystander? Those who watch bullying happen or hear about it
They can either contribute to the problem or the solution.
Bystanders rarely play a completely neutral role
Depending on how the bystander respond, they can either contribute to the problem or the solution
Many bystanders think they play neutral role in many situations

4. The Bystander Effect
A phenomenon in which the greater the number of people present, the less likely people are to help a person in distress.
Observers are more likely to take action if there are few or no other witnesses.
No single person has to take responsibility for an action or inaction.
There are two major factors that contribute to the bystander effect:
1. The presence of other people creates a diffusion of responsibility.
2. The need to behave in correct and socially acceptable ways.
Diffusion of Responsibility: Because there are other observers, individuals do not feel as much pressure to take action, since the responsibility to take action is thought to be shared among all of those present.
Behave in correct/acceptable ways: When other observers fail to react, individuals often take this as a signal that a response is not needed or not appropriate. Other researchers have found that onlookers are less likely to intervene if the situation is ambiguous. In the case of Kitty Genovese, many of the 38 witnesses reported that they believed that they were witnessing a "lover's quarrel," and did not realize that the young woman was actually being murdered.

5. Types of Bystanders Hurtful Bystanders Helpful Bystanders
Instigate the bullying by prodding the bully.
Encourage the bullying by laughing, cheering, or making comments.
Join in the bullying
Most bystanders passively accept bullying by watching and doing nothing.
Helpful Bystanders
Bystanders have the power to play a key role in preventing or stopping bullying.
Directly intervene by discouraging, defending, and/or redirecting
Get help by rallying support from peers to stand up
Most bystanders...passively accept-Often without realizing it, these bystanders also contribute to the problem. Passive bystanders provide the audience a bully craves and the silent acceptance that allows bullies to continue their hurtful behavior.

6. What is an upstander?
Someone who recognizes when something is wrong and acts to make it right
An upstander sees or hears about someone being bullied and they speak up
Being upstander is just like being a hero
3rd, Hero=standing up for what is right and doing our best to help support and protect someone who is being hurt.

7. Qualities of an Upstander
Courageous
Action-Oriented
Assertive
Compassionate
A Leader
Courageous-Telling a friend who is bullying to stop is hard. They may be mad at you. But at least you won't feel guilt for being silent and allowing the bullying to continue. And you will be doing your friend a huge favor in the end by helping them stop really hurtful behavior.
Action Oriented- Doing something that does not support the bullying behavior can be a really small intervention with big results! Three words - "That is bullying" - can cause others to recognize the problem; proactive instead of reactive
Assertive- Telling a friend how their behavior makes you feel and how it affects others requires being able to use your voice
Compassionate- Upstanders have the gift of compassion. They recognize when someone is hurt and take steps to help
A Leader- Upstanders are leaders in their social group, helping others to recognize ways to get along and be supportive to others.

8. How do I become an upstander?
Tell the perpetrator to stop
Get others to stand up with you
Help the victim
Shift the focus & redirect the perpetrator away from the victim
Tell an adult who can help
Becoming an upstander is about moving from silence to action.

9. Become An Upstander to Cyberbullying
Post words of support for the victim.
Encourage the victim to seek help.
Rally your friends to post comments that show support for the victim.
Alert someone in authority about what you are observing online or on any electronic device
“I disagree with what’s been said.”
You are being bullied. Don’t keep what’s happening bottled up inside. Seek help from someone you trust.”

10. About 50% of all bullying events stop when an upstander decides to intervene which just further shows the importance of intervening.
“All of my research shows you have to focus not only on changing the individual but changing the situation.”
Elenor Roosevelt said, "It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness."
60% of students with disabilities report being bullied regularly, that's more than twice as much (25%) of all students.
American schools harbor approximately 2.1 million bullies and 2.7 million of their victims. Dan Olweus, National School Safety Center.
56% of students have personally witnessed some type of bullying at school.
87% of students said shootings are motivated by a desire to “get back at those who have hurt them.”
A new review of studies from 13 countries found signs of an apparent connection between bullying, being bullied, and suicide. (Yale School of Medicine)

11. Stand Up,
Stand Strong

12. Become an #Upstander in your community and share with others.
Upstander Pledge
Become an #Upstander in your community and share with others.
I pledge to be an Upstander:
I will stand up to bullying whether I’m at school, at home, at work, in my house of worship, or out with friends, family, colleagues, or teammates.
I will work to make others feel safe and included by treating them with respect and compassion.
I will not use insulting or demeaning language, slurs, gestures, facial expressions, or jokes about anyone’s sexuality, size, gender, race, any kind of disability, religion, class, politics, or other differences, in person or while using technology.
If I see or hear behavior that perpetuates prejudice:
I will speak up! I will let others know that bullying, cruelty, and prejudice are abusive and not acceptable.
I will reach out to someone I know who has been the target of abusive actions or words and let this person know that this is not okay with me and ask how I can help.
I will remain vigilant and not be a passive audience or “bystander” to abusive actions or words.
If I learn in person or online that someone is feeling seriously depressed or potentially suicidal:
I will reach out and tell this person, “Your life has value and is important, no matter how you feel at the moment and no matter what others say or think.”
I will strongly encourage this person to get professional help.

13. references http://onlinesense.org/cyber-bullying-bystanders-teens/
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