1. THE 3 R’s of
PARENTING
How to raise Respectful, Responsible, Resilient Kids!
Deborah Gilboa, M.D.

2. If you could wave a magic wand...
Which behavior would you change at home?

3. BEHAVIOR CHANGE
Change
the reaction.

4. YOU NEED A PLAN 1. Pick a behavior. 2. Decide on consequences.
3. Meet as a family.
4. Stick to it!

5. Methods: CHANGE “HOW- TO” Key ingredient: CONSISTENCY. Distraction
Separation
Non-response
Losing priveleges
Contracts
Key ingredient:
CONSISTENCY.

6. 3 R’s of PARENTING Respect Responsibility Resilience
That’s my kid!
Responsibility
Build a great work ethic.
Resilience
Manage difficulty.

7. RESPECT Tone of voice. Titles of respect. Eye contact Body Language
Secret Code
Negotiating
Parental privacy
3 sentences; amazing results!

8. RESPONSIBILITY How can I help? Chores Homework Practice
Community service
One work ethic; sentences

9. RESILIENCE “I’ll be really interested to see what you do!”
Mistakes teach resilience.
Praise the process.
Let life teach the lesson.
Choices, within limits.
Encourage some risk-taking.
Reach out for resources!
“I’ll be really interested to see what you do!”

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