1. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People: Finding the Leader in Me!
Adapted from Stephen Covey’s: Seven Habits of Highly Effective People; Inspired by Stephen Covey’s The Leader in Me; Some interpretations are derived from Interpretation of Heather Sheehan

2. What is a Habit?
A habit is something you automatically do over and over again.
It becomes something that you don’t have to think about, you just do it.
Good Habits
Brushing your teeth
Exercising
Reading before bed
Good hygiene
Others??
Bad Habits
Falling asleep on the couch
Picking at scabs
Talking back to adults
Doing homework in the morning
Others???

3. How do you develop or create a HABIT?
Some habits are developed on purpose, you choose to brush your teeth first thing when you wake up because you don’t want stink breath… Some habits are created by accident, you always brush your teeth with your right hand.

4. Can you change your HABITS?
YES WE CAN!
Make the decision to do it!
Is it easy to change HABITS?
Not usually, but with DETERMINATION, you can do it.
Creating new habits that are healthier and better for yourself and everyone around you can take hard work.

5. What does it mean to be effective?
An effective person will:
Set goals for themselves and work hard to reach them.
Create and maintain strong relationships with others.
Work well with others in groups.
Be happy and confident with themselves.
Be respectful to themselves and others.
Work hard to be able to do things well.
Focus on PRIMARY GREATNESS

6. What is a Leader? Who Can be a Leader? Leaders make good choices.
Leaders plan.
Leaders get along with others.
Leaders use their talents and strengths to solve problems.
Everyone has the power to be a leader – especially you!!
Who Can be a Leader?

7. Primary Greatness vs Secondary Greatness
Primary Greatness is achieved by being a good, kind and thoughtful person. A person who is happy with themselves and treats everyone, including themselves with RESPECT. You achieve primary greatness by having INTEGRITY and good character.
Secondary Greatness is achieved when you are recognized by others for your talents rather than your character. An example of secondary greatness is winning a trophy or getting straight A’s on your report card.
Who here has Primary Greatness?
The person who won the game and spoke poorly to the kids on the other team or the person who won the game and congratulated the other kids for a great game…
The person who got an A+ but fools around in class or the person who got a C and tried their very best…
The person who has 20 friends but will only play what she wants to play, or the person who is new to the school and helps someone after they fell at the playground…

8. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People: Finding the Leader in Me!
Adapted from Stephen Covey’s: Seven Habits of Highly Effective People; Inspired by Stephen Covey’s The Leader in Me; Some interpretations are derived from Interpretation of Heather Sheehan

9. Habit # 1 Be Proactive
Means taking initiative and being responsible for your actions or reactions toward something. Initiative- is taking responsibility to make things happen. Proactive people believe that they CAN and WILL do something because, they realize they are in control of their choices. They bring their own weather with them. They control their reactions and choose to see the rainbow or the storm and are willing to face the consequences.

10. When something bad happens you choose what to say and how you will react…
REACTIVE LANGUAGE
PROACTIVE LANGUAGE
There is nothing I can do about it… That is just the way I am… He makes me mad… She won’t let me… I have to do that… I can’t… If only he… She made me…
Let’s look at our choices I can choose how I respond I control my feelings I can create an excellent project I choose… I can… I will…
YOU choose which language you use. YOU choose your reaction.
YOU choose whether or not to be PROACTIVE!

11. EVERYONE makes mistooks, I mean mistakes…
It is what we do about it that matters…
The greatest leaders of our time make mistakes. But, they are good leaders because they choose to be proactive by:
Acknowledging the mistake immediately.
“I made a mistake”
Doing what ever it takes to fix it.
“I am so sorry”
Learn from it. “What can I do next time to make sure this doesn’t happen again”

12. Knowing what is in MY control
Things I can’t control…
Me and
My Actions and Choices
Proactive People Focus on the things they can control:
yourself and your actions…

13. What you can be VS What you could have
Integrity
Proactive people keep promises to themselves and others. They don’t just say they will do something they DO IT! This builds trust in themselves and others. The sense of trust, pride and importance of knowing you can keep a promise is Integrity.
What you can be VS What you could have
Focus on what you can be not on the “but if I only had… “
Instead of saying “ If only I was better at math” say, “ I can be better at math if I practice my math facts every night and ask for help”
Instead of wishing your sister was nicer say, “ I can be better to my sister by being nice and offering to help her with her chores. “
REMEMBER – You can only control YOU – so focus on what you can be and things will work more effectively around you.

14. Summary of Habit #1 Be Proactive
Proactive people…
Know that they choose how to respond to things that happen in life.
Never say they have to do something
Bring their own weather with them and choose to shine light on a situation.
Use Proactive language and not reactive.
Focus on things that they can control.
Make and keep promises to themselves and others. They have integrity.
Acknowledge mistakes right away, correct them and learn from them.
ALWAYS ask themselves: “How am I going to react?”
Focus on what they can be and what they can do with what they have – not on what they could have.
Are you a PROACTIVE person??

15. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Being Effective
Habit 2

16. Habit #2 Begin with the end in mind
What do you want people to say about you when you are not around?
How do you make sure that they can say that about you?
What grade do you want to achieve in Math?
How do you get it?

17. Setting Goals What do I want to be today?
What do I want to be in a week?
What do I want to be in a Month?
What do I want to be in a year?
What do I want to be in 5 years?
10 years?
30 years?
Start small and think BIG!

18. VISUALIZE Think of something that you want to happen See it happening
Now rewind it and picture all the things you had to do to prepare for it to happen
Visualizing alone doesn’t make it happen, now you have to go out and put your vision to action.

19. Personal Mission Statement
Focus on what means most to you in life…
Mission statements are usually a few sentences that describe the goals in your life.
They remind people what their mission is
Help people to focus on what is important to them so that everything they do is supported.
Listen more than you talk. Taking care of myself makes me more effective in taking care of others. Laugh more than you cry…

20. Examples of Mission Statements
I want to continuously promote and foster a cooperative environment wherever I go. I want to make everyone feel welcome in my presence, and yet retain my strength and individuality. I will use my talents as a communicator to teach others. I will use my social skills to bring people closer together. I will be inspired by the smallest of challenges. I will live in awe of my good fortune in life.
I will contribute to my family by offering support. I want to contribute to society through a charity organization. I will raise my children to embrace other cultures and not fear differences in people. I believe in treating others with kindness. I do not make excuses for myself. I will be humble and serve others.
I will look for strengths in others, and the good in every situation. I will ensure that I do what I can to create a learning environment everywhere I go. I will live with and attitude of gratitude. I will repay every kindness shown to me. I will live, work, and play with renewed spirit.
"always take responsibility," or "express my emotions constructively."

21. Summary of Habit #2 Begin with the End in Mind
People who Begin with the End in Mind:
Think about what they would like to be described as by others
Determine what is most important to them
Create PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENTS
Visualize their mission and goals

22. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Review of Habits 1 & 2
Habit 3

23. Habit #3 PUT first things first
People who do this, don’t waste time with things that don’t help them reach their goals

24. Prioritize

25. Summary of Habit #3 Put First Things First
People who put first things first…
Think of what is most important to them and create missions and goals that help others to see them that way…
Participate in activities that are consistent with their mission statement and goals
Don’t waste time doing activities that do not help them reach their goals

26. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Review of Habits
Private Victories
Roles and Goals

27. Work on making yourself better first
Private Victories
Private Victories are the words used to describe success that you find and develop within yourself. You achieve them by:
Being Proactive
Begin With the End in Mind
Putting First Things First
Work on making yourself better first

28. How Many Hats do you wear?

29. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Review of Roles and Goals
Habit 4

30. Habit #4 Think Win - Win
Thinking win-win means that when a decision must be made the people involved try to find a solution by working together
They work hard at making a decision that will be good for everyone involved
You are always looking for ways to make sure that everyone can feel good about a decision
Working with others to find solutions is thinking Win-Win

31. Think Win - Win
To really think win-win you need 3 things: Integrity – valuing ourselves and know that we are important and if we say we will do something we DO IT! Maturity – we need to act in a grown up responsible way. Abundance Mentality – abundance means there is a lot of something. Mentality means the way you think. So the two together means that you believe that there is a lot of good things to share with everyone in this world.

32. Think win-win
You and all people involved are happy You are happy but others are not You are not happy but others are No one is happy with the decision Everyone decides to NOT make a decision right away. Think about it and discuss later

33. Summary of Habit #4 THINK WIN-WIN
People who think Win-Win:
Always try to make a solution that everyone is happy with. You can make decisions that are:
Win-Win Win-Lose
Lose-Win Lose-Lose No Deal
Win-Win requires, INTEGRITY, MATURITY & ABUNDANCE MENTALITY (there is enough good to go around for everyone…)
It is okay to choose NO DEAL if you can’t reach a WIN-WIN decision
Do you think Win-Win?

34. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Review of Think Win-Win
Habit 5

35. Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood
Imagine going to the doctor and before you can even tell her what is wrong, she gives you a medicine that she says will make you feel better. Would you trust the doctor? Would you want to take the medicine? People Communicate in 4 main ways: Reading – Writing – Speaking - Listening

36. Listening How do you know you are a good listener?
Eyes are on the person talking.
Put other thoughts aside.
Avoid distractions.
Ask questions to help you understand.
Allow them to finish talking.
Actively listen:
Nod head
Facial expressions
Mmm Hmm, yes, I know, ok…

37. Find out something you didn’t already know about each other?
Find your group…
Find out something you didn’t already know about each other?
Find something that you have in common with each other?

38. Emotional Bank Account
Withdrawals
Deposits

39. Summary of Habit #5
People who seek First to Understand then to be Understood…
Listen First, Speak Second
REALLY listen when someone is speaking. They are not thinking about what they want to say.
Try to understand what the other person is saying by asking questions.
Listening is a great way to make a deposit in another person’s emotional back account.

40. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Review of all the Habits
Habit 6

41. Habit #6 Synergize Synergize ~ Cooperating with others creatively.
Being PROACTIVE and open minded to new ideas.
SEEKING FIRST TO UNDERSTAND OTHERS and communicating with them.
To SYNERGIZE you must believe that you can accomplish more by putting your minds together.

42. Synergy Be Proactive Respect each other Don’t take insults personally
Find the good in the situation
Express your ideas and communicate
Work together for a Win-Win

43. Work together on this activity and use all of the habits!
SYNERGIZE
Work together on this activity and use all of the habits!

44. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Review of all the Habits
Habit 7

45. Sharpen the Saw Taking Care of:
Body – Get Moving! Eat Right and be healthy.
Mind- Read, Write, Explore! Put 1st things 1st…
Spirit- Focus on goals and mission! Take time to think and clear your mind…
Social- Help others! Acts of kindness and deposits into others Emotional Bank Accounts.

46. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
BE PROACTIVE
BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND
PUT 1ST THINGS 1ST
THINK WIN-WIN
SEEK 1ST TO UNDERSTAND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD
SYNERGIZE
SHARPEN THE SAW